I do a lot of research, not only for my articles but also for my own awareness of a cause I am passionate about. One thing that continually comes up from my research and talking to people about pro choice is the importance, and often lack of, family support.
Whatever the decision about a pregnancy is, most people will tell you that family support is crucial. The reality is that not a large percentage of women are getting the family support they need.
Women facing unplanned pregnancies and medical issues are facing the toughest choice of their lives, and sadly, many do it without the support of the people they love most.
It is heartbreaking to me that any woman would have to face a decision about a pregnancy by themselves. I understand people not knowing what to say or what to do in difficult times for others. However, it is my experience with many women that it goes way beyond that.
Women in their adulthood who are not comfortable having anyone in their family know about their decision to abort. Also, some women who feel they have to lie and say they miscarried, because they feel guilt in their decision to abort for medical reasons.
There are also many who have no family support in cases where the choice is to put the child up for adoption or to keep their baby.
I have never seen so much detachment from family, until I was the writer of this topic. There are entire forums devoted to women who are alone in their decisions and have no “real life” support. There are support groups, and most of them while open to it, are not there to be with others like them. There is no one to support them at all, whether someone has gone through it as well or not. They are just alone facing a huge decision, and the aftermath.
Moreover, usually these women have family and real life friends, who for one reason or another are not, look the other way when they have someone close to them, in this kind of need.
Politics, morals, and fear of disappointing others can play a huge role, in whether a woman has support.
If someone you know is struggling during and after the decision making process, these women need your support.
Regardless of the circumstances, human beings need the support of other human beings, and are already being judged quite harshly by the opposition.