When we stoop to act on impulsive negative thoughts we disturb our bodily peace and harmony.
Negativity or nastiness is our own business and not others' fault as we may claim to ourselves. We are the only ones disturbing our peace and upsetting our body. If you find yourself shaking or your body otherwise upset you've lost your balance.
When we let situations escalate to the point we feel upset we're more liable to act negatively to those around us. If we were feeling peaceful and calm in the midst of the same event we would be less likely to blame others.
Instant breathing meditation
This instant meditation is mood and thought changing, with the aim of regaining your peace of mind and center of harmony, before exploding into a volcano of negative words and actions.
You can do this without others even being aware of your secret fix.
Wherever you are, whatever you're doing, turn your attention to your breath. Breathe in and out evenly like this: breathe in 2 counts, breathe out 2 counts, breathe in 2 counts and continue for at least half a minute.
This interval of calm and control over your actions breaks the train of negative energy and gives you time to regroup your thoughts.
By regaining your balance you can more easily think through a solution to what you were frustrated about. It is helpful to write out a plan of action in a journal to avoid a future negative scene. It is not healthful to raise your blood pressure with negative or nasty actions.
Some more thoughts: As humans we have developed regions of our brain that are dedicated to creative thinking, planning and problem solving. When we act out on negative emotions we are not using those areas, we are using the lower brain. I've heard the more primitive brain area referred to as our instinctual brain area, controlling the automatic bodily functions.
Everyone wants to be happy and thinks the way they are acting is the way to get to that happiness. But this can be so far from the truth if we resort to impulsive negativity or nastiness with others.
It is by maintaining harmonious relationships that we feel happiness and harmony in our body and peace in our mind. Doing good in the world takes us away from thinking about ourselves for the moment, and we find that therein lies the elusive happiness we all want.
In closing, negativity and nastiness play no part in our peace and happiness. When needed use the instant breathing meditation to calm down and feel good again.
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