Staying connected with your daughter is a big deal because Ė letís face it they grow up fast. Do you want to know how to always stay connected and maintain a great relationship at all times, at any age?
USE YOUR DAUGHTERíS BODY CLOCK CHANGES TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. Your daughter is more lively in the afternoon and evening. Parents take advantage of this reality. Engage into a nice walk, run or bike ride. After a long day of either school or work - activities like this will do the body good.
USE HUMOR AND HOREPLAY. Laughter is always good for the body. Itís easy to get exasperated with either some things your daughter says or lectures you give. But if you turn it into something funny, she can laugh, and then get it. This will ease tension in the relationship as well as the household.
SHOW SOME RESPECT. If you treat your daughter with the same respect that you show adults, it comes back. Respect her rights to choose, even if you disagree with the choice. Remember to have boundaries in place at all times, this will help with her choices.
ASSESS HER ACTIONS. Just as toddlers communicate with tantrums, all ages have something to say with ďbadĒ behavior. Make a good approach to separate her actions from your approval of her as a person. Separate from the problem first be letting her know that you are proud to have her as a daughter. Include how you donít always handle things like you should sometimes. Add 15 second strategic humor and then get right down to the problem. She will open up with a clear head and a lot less hostility and anger.
MAKE AN APPOINTMENT. Spending time together is always a plus. You donít have to break the bank to spend time together, it could be something simple like have a picnic, get ice cream, go for a ride, check out a movie or game. Whatever you decide make a point to get outside and move around. Make an appointment with each other every week. This appointment should not be broken and should include quality time. I still keep my regular appointment with my mom every week for tea even though she is now out of town. We talk by phone and have tea over good conversation.
Your daughter needs and wants your influence in her life, even if she claims otherwise. The tips above are just a few ways to preserve and strengthen your bond with your daughter at any age. She will have many stages of growth throughout her entire span of life. Be a part of that whether itís her personal or physical growth - itís a clear way to stay connected.
Itís a new day for daughters of all ages. When she discovers her true potential the sky wonít be the limit. The suggestions made can go for any age daughter Ė have fun connecting! Check out suggestions for connection on connected page for all ages.
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