Life experiences show us that we are interdependent - not totally independent. All our comings and goings, and interactions with one another and the world make up the flow of events in our lives.
This is lesson 36 in the series "Conquering Codependency - Loving Without Leaning" looking at aspects of codependency from a spiritual point of view.
A simple example of our interdependence is the workplace - we each contribute our time and energy - in return receiving money to buy what we need.
In relationships it feels joyful to move and experience beyond the boundaries of yesterday. In the merging of the moment, in present reality, we give up our self-centeredness in favor of becoming consciously entwined in more.
When our self-boundaries blend into the weavings of others' lives we feel joy. As interwoven threads in a tapestry, we form a picture, rich in color and detail that we do not enjoy while lying as separate spools of thread in a sewing box.
Find a quiet place to sit with your journal. To begin, practice a few rounds of even breathing. Counts 1, 2 breathe in; counts 3, 4 breathe out; counts 1, 2 breathe in and continue.
Write a list of ways you are interdependent in your life. Reflect how in so many ways we give and take in our daily life and relationships. Now, pick a virtue to practice daily, such as kindness.
Alongside kindness high on the list of virtues that make a difference in the experience of life is forgiveness - forgiveness of the wrongs done to you, forgiving yourself for your own trespasses, forgiving yourself for holding negative thoughts about anyone now or in the past.
At a later date when you pick up your journal, note how your chosen virtue has improved the quality of your life and relationships.
Finish your journaling meditation with a deep breath and a few moments of silence.
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