Yesterday (September 2), my husband and I celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary.

We spent the day talking about how wonderful the past four years have been, how much we’ve grown and changed since our wedding, and how we fall deeper in love with each other every day.

Whenever we looked at the clock we’d say, “Four years ago right now we were having our pictures taken! Now we were eating dinner! Now we were cutting the cake!” We had so much fun talking about all the details of our reception (which was *ADULTS ONLY* by the way!).

I believe one of the keys to our successful marriage is the time we spend together – time we wouldn’t have if we had decided to have children.

I know there are people out there who just don’t understand our decision. But the only people we really have to please are ourselves and each other. It’s no one else’s life to live. Our decisions are ours to make.

As I’m sure many of you do, we use our anniversary as a time to reflect on our marriage, what it means to us, and where we hope our dreams will take us in the future. But it’s also a good time to remember why you decided not to have kids, because it is all intertwined.

One older child free couple I know says that every once in awhile one will turn to the other and say, “So, do you regret not having kids?” And the other one always says “NO!”

All I can say is when I was having a foot massage last night, I was MORE than thankful there weren’t any children knocking on my bedroom door!