I always ask my clients for a clear definition of what they want in their lives. So often, they begin with a million dollars (or more). “What will you do with that million dollars,” I ask? Sometimes there is no answer behind that question. Some will say that they want to pay off their bills. “Do you have a million dollars worth of debt,” I ask? “Well, no,” is usually the reply. Some people want the million dollars so they can feel financially secure. “So, what you want, is not a million dollars, but financial security, right,” is how I respond? “Well, a million dollars is financial security,” they volley. “Not if you are missing a smart plan for your millions,” I say.
To be a Millionaire, debt free or financially secure are all different requests. You can be a Millionaire in debt (your new debt will probably be bigger). You can be a Millionaire and still be financially insecure (without financial savvy and planning, most lottery winners end up right back where they started). Furthermore, you probably don’t need to be a Millionaire to purchase most of the things you have in mind to purchase.
My grandmother use to say, “Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it.” I say, “Be careful what you ask for, The Universe hears you, and is sending it your way right now.”
Even if you really do want to be a Millionaire, the Universe wants you to be clear and concise. By truly defining what you want, you can create a more focused request and enjoy more precise results, faster.
Seventeen years ago, I wrote a letter to The Universe asking for a job with the following criteria: I wanted a job that combined my Marketing degree and my travel industry experience. I wanted to rub elbows with the Who’s Who of my big city. I wanted nightlife to accompany my position. I wanted to enjoy the best restaurants and hotels at no cost. I wanted my job to send me travelling. Most importantly, I wanted $20k more than I was making, I wanted flexible hours and freedom to move around, not to be tied to a desk 9:00 am -5:00 pm.
Within the week, a job appeared in our local Tribune that fit the exact description. Within three weeks, I was hired.
Asking to be a Millionaire in this scenario would have allowed me to do all of these things. Still, the social and mental aspects, of the job, made me feel more welcomed and accepted than the money would have.
So, how do you reach clarity?
Begin by thinking of the biggest thing you truly want. Then, keep questioning yourself, until you arrive at its core. “Why do I want this so badly?” “What will accomplishing this mean to me?” “What will I do with it when I get it?” “How will having it affect my relationships, career, finances and lifestyle?” “What non-negotiable (things that I cannot accept or change) could keep me from accepting this new opportunity?” “What sacrifices am I willing to make to have it?” “When am I most likely to attend to the responsibilities that come with this?” “Where will I live when I accomplish this goal?” “How does happy look, feel and smell? Can I get to this same happiness before I accomplish this goal?” “What is keeping me from happiness now?” “What am I most grateful for?” “Wha, am I forgetting?”
Answering these questions will help bring you closer to a clear definition of what you really want, even if that means you really want to be a Millionaire.
From your answers, develop your request in the form of a letter. A letter provides more room for descriptions and emotions.
Next, get to know others that have accomplished your goal. Read the biographies, autobiographies, and written interviews of seasoned and newly accomplished persons living your dream. Look for documentaries or reality shows of your possible mentors. Get to know as much as you can about this world you are attempting to create. Develop a sense about it. Create a vision board based upon your emotions and senses.
Then, create affirmations that refute your opposing habits. If your new accomplishment will require you to be on-time, while you are normally tardy, create an affirmation that finds you “right on time, all the time.” If you need to play the lottery more frequently, in order to win, create an affirmation that “you will play the lottery daily.”
Now you have communicated clarity in writing, vision and emotion. Revisit your goal, vision board and affirmations daily, in order to stay focused. Losing sight of your goal is the same as not having clarity.
Finally, remember, that the Universe is always conspiring to give you exactly what you want. So, know that what you are asking for is on the way.
Keep an open mind, as great opportunities will present themselves in easy and interesting ways. Each opportunity has the potential to open doors that become portals, leading to your dreams.