Trust is one of the following traits that many people consider to be required when you are developing and maintaining lasting friendships and balanced relationships.
- Concern for Others
- Belief in Yourself, Family and Friends
Here are some things that you can do to try to build trust.
- Follow through. Offer to do something for someone that needs to be done and then see it through from start to finish.
- Communicate openly and honestly. Find ways to communicate with people in a clear and honest manner. Show them you are trustworthy.
- Donít be a phony. Donít embellish stories. The continuous presence of exaggerated details about everything and anything usually indicates a disingenuous person. Donít hide behind fictional stories that you create to make yourself seem more interesting.
How Do You Know Who You Can Trust?
- You might start out by observing people you spend time with and the level of integrity and honesty that they exhibit.
- Then you trust those who have earned it. Trust is earned and is built over time, not overnight. It is earned by consistency in the things that you say and the things that you do.
- Pay close attention to the behavior patterns of friends and co-workers to see if they exhibit trustworthy characteristics.
Here are a few examples:
- You see that one of your co-workers takes a can of soda from the office refrigerator that you know belongs to someone else. Do you think they would be a trustworthy friend?
- What about someone who breaks a promise? What if someone asks you to pick up their lunch for them when you are going out to get yours and promises to pay you when you get back, and they donít? When you return they rattle off something about not having any cash and the need to go to an ATM to get the money they owe you. Days pass and you never see the money. Can you trust them?
- Your significant other continuously says one thing and does another. They make promises they never keep and are always vague when asked for explanations. Should you trust them?
- A co-worker promises to bring you their grandmotherís special family recipe for chocolate chip cookies tomorrow. She not only brings you the recipe but includes a dozen cookies from the batch she made so you can try them before you make them yourself. Can you trust her?
- When going out to eat together try splitting the bill to determine if your friend is going to be a fair player. If the bill arrives and they suddenly have a reason they canít pay their half of the bill, but say they will pay you tomorrow and then they donít. Can you trust them?
- Learning to trust your own instincts is probably the most important decision you can make about who you should trust and who you should not trust.
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