Imagine being in constant excruciating pain after experiencing almost 200 broken bones all before you turned 18 years old. Do you think that would give you the excuse - the “but” to not do things?
Sean Stephenson has rare disease called Brittle Bone Disease, and was born with broken bones. His condition makes his life very complicated. He didn't have an easy life, but has had to overcome enormous obstacles. He didn’t succumb to the “but” but got off of it and did something with his life.
He's now a PhD and licensed psychotherapist. He's an internationally known professional speaker. And he's three feet tall.
I've read many self-help books, but this one was different. I felt a kinship with Sean. He comes across as a person who wants to help others. His message simple and clear, but at the same time he helps the reader dig into complex challenges.
This book consists of seven chapters, a foreword, an epilogue, and a resources area.
Tony Robbins touching Foreward helped me understand what an amazing person Sean is. He made a point of explaining why Sean's book is a "must read."
Chapter One - Born to Kick But: The Short Story of a Big Life. In this autobiographical sketch, we learn about Sean's childhood, the challenges he faced, and the object lessons he learned. He introduces us to his core philosophy: cause and effect. It's not a new concept and thus it's not something he made up to attract an audience.
Chapter Two - Lesson 1: Start Connecting. There's a difference between just communicating and actually connecting with others. President Clinton is an expert on connecting with people. In this chapter, Sean lists "Ten things I learned about connection from President Bill Clinton." Sean knows Clinton personally, so this isn't an armchair observation kind of thing. This chapter has lots of great information for anyone frustrated with relationships (personal or business).
Chapter Three - Lesson 2: Watch What You Say to Yourself. We have all heard about the traditional inner dialogue, but Sean kicks it up a notch. Sean points out that your word choices can have a transformational effect. So choose good words.
Chapter Four - Lesson 3: Master Your Physical Confidence. You can usually spot a person who has self-esteem issues, can't you? Sean explains why some people seem to dominate the room, even if they aren’t the best-looking, best-dressed or loudest person there and what you can do to bolster your confidence.
Chapter Five - Lesson 4: Focus Your Focus. Sean discusses how to change your focus from what you don't have to what you do and be thankful for it. He teaches us how to direct our minds toward what you want to achieve rather than letting your mental powers drown in self-pity.
Chapter Six - Lesson 5: Choose Your Friends Wisely. Sean uses the metaphor of a pit crew to illustrate the differences between A Friends, B Friends, and C Friends. He explains that you can choose your pit crew. Cultivate real friends by avoiding the takers, drainers and destroyers.
Chapter Seven - Lesson 6: Take Full Responsibility. Either you own your situations, or they own you. Sean’s simple formula - C > E - cause is greater than effect. He explains how this works and how it can liberate you. Sean believes that this formula is so important that when one of his psychotherapy clients refuses to work with this formula, Sean ends the session and refunds the client's money.
Epilogue - One Last Thing.... As it's only one page, it's an epilogue rather than a chapter. It's Sean's final piece of wisdom for applying the lessons in the book.
Resources. Sean lists books and movies "that shaped my life." He also lists excellent online resources for various issues.
You will not want to miss this amazing book. Get your copy today. If you are thinking, "Yeah, but..." then you desperately need it. Don't delay.