Co-parenting, are you ill? Is this hard? Insane? Yes, Yes and Yes. Why do it? Because, daughters having the support of both of her parents is most likely able to do well in society and lead a productive life. Yes, I know it can be hard getting past the history of hurts and built up resentment. Is this the perfect solution? No, but it is the best solution for getting some of the major needs met for your daughter. Think of it this way. Co-parenting is not about your feelings or your ex's, but of your daughter's happiness, stability, and future. Sounds easier said than done. Here you'll see tips and suggestions for healthy co-parenting.
Understand that your daughter’s needs will surround things like education, finances, and medical. Anything else is personal. Staying kid focused is the key to co-parenting. And keeping in mind that, this is about her not you!(for the relationships that included domestic violence please seek assistance from domestic agencies which links can be found at the bottom of this article)
Unbelievably daughters develop skills that are more social than anything else is. Moreover, social skills are a big part of who we are and our development.
I encourage parents in the efforts of your daughter to put your differences behind you and decide what is best for your daughter to succeed. Here are a few incentives to getting you in motion. In some instances, daughters engage into early sexual activity, teen pregnancy may be the result; emotional effects may be life long, education, and poverty then come into play. Not to mention, other risky behaviors! Here are a few cinereous.
She will seek out attention from boys and engage into risky behaviors that will promote early sexual activity, which the result could be pregnancy. Her continued need for male attention will continue into her adult stage, which the result could be abusive relationships. She will develop abandonment issues. And, because of her development of abandonment issues, she may have difficulty forming lasting relationships with men, which then social skills become a problem.
Her education may suffer or be interrupted due to either early pregnancy or risky behaviors. The result of lack of education could mean low paying jobs. The result, not enough money to support her and her child, which then poverty becomes an issue.
Your daughter should be supported by both parents (if possible). Keeping in mind that you must remain mature and calming during this process. Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you venture into co-parenting:
• Never use your daughter as a messenger
• Stay daughter focused (kid)
• Keep your issues to yourself
• Get your feelings out somewhere else (friend, therapist etc.)
• Keep meeting consistently about issues pertaining your daughter
• Ask for opinions from your ex
• Breath and take frequent ones
• Stay calm (in her efforts)
Respect can go along way and knowing that keep talking with your ex consistently. Don’t sweat the small stuff and work really hard at compromise. Compromise allows you both to win and the ability to be more flexible in the future. How do you make something work that did not work when you were together? (Your daughter) I wrote this article out of my personal experience with this. Talking openly about it, allowed me to be able to write and encourage healthy co-parenting skills, knowing it won't be easy. Good Luck!
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