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Doubts and the Inner Critic

When you attempt to chase your dreams, do you sometimes hear a little voice inside telling you all of the reasons why you wonít or canít be successful? That little voice is your inner critic.

I canít think of one new life experience be it professional or personal that I encountered with absolute complete confidence. Even if itís something I have experience with, I still have my doubts.

Mina Parker author of Less is More: Meditations on Simplicity, Balance and Real Abundance writes that sheís been known to talk herself out of a good idea. Lisa Nichols, one of the teachers featured in The Secret admitted in a podcast that after gaining much experience conducting workshops pro bono, when she started to get paid for her work, she wondered if she should perhaps say something different.

Having doubts when entering unknown territory is normal. And this inner voice can actually help you to identify potential roadblocks you may encounter. However, itís best not to take this self-inflicted negativity too seriously. When Mina Parker is brainstorming ideas and hears that voice of doubt, she stops it cold. ďIf I have a great new idea, say for a new book project, I slap a mental hand over my mouthĒ she writes. ďIím not allowed to talk to anyone about the details, even say them out loud. I build an inner dialogue about my idea, never wondering why I hadnít thought of it before. I treat my new idea as though Iíve been planning it my whole life.Ē

I view my own doubts as pesky distractions that are attempting derail my activitiesóif I let them. When Iím mailing off a new short story that I hope to sell, I donít let the fact that I believe the story is probably mediocre stop me. I make sure I do the absolute best work I can do and mail it off anyway despite my doubts. And usually, I receive a contract in the mail.

If you cannot ignore your doubts or feel that your inner voice has some valid points, write them down. Write down all of the reasons why you feel you canít achieve a certain goal. Next go into problem solving mode. Pick one thing from the list and for one day think of all the ways you can solve that particular problem. Then go back to the list, pick another potential roadblock and brainstorm solutions again. Keep going until youíve dealt with all of your doubts.

Through experience Iíve found that many problems I thought would be mountains ended up being anthills, once I confronted them. But I wouldnít have discovered this if I let my inner critic have the final word.

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