“Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things and I’ll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things.” ~ Lawrence D. Bell.
This insightful thought applies to everything in life, including marriage. When a friend of mine expressed her unhappiness with their marriage, her husband roared back, “I come home every night, don’t I? I bring home a paycheck. I don’t cheat. I don’t drink. I don’t do drugs. I’m still here after 24 years. What more do you want?”
Big problems break up marriages, sure, but little problems can whittle away, silently and slowly, otherwise “good” marriages, too. Neglecting those small everyday issues leads to building resentment or, worse, apathy. How do you avoid growing apart? By staying connected through the small but mighty things you can do for each other on a daily basis.
My Twitter feed provide a Daily Marriage Boost that will challenge you to do one simple thing to strengthen your marital relationship. There’s no catch and no obligation. If you aren’t familiar with Twitter, it is a free social networking site. Sign up for your personal account (Don’t worry. No spam or identity theft issues here.) Then, sign up for my Twitter feed. My Twitter name is @BellaMarriage.
You’ll receive one Tweet from me per day that will begin with a “Daily Marriage Boost.” I considered calling it a “Challenge” or “Task of the day” but honestly, who wants more tasks on their to-do list? I thought about calling it the “Daily Honey Do List” but again, who wants to be told what to do?
A Daily Marriage Boost is just that: a boost for your marriage. Something that will bring a smile to your mate’s face. A little joy or laughter. A little love expressed. It can make a bad marriage better and a good one great. You’d be surprised at the power of a small but sincere act of love. One more tip: Don’t demand or expect your mate to reciprocate. It’s a gift from you, not a trade of goods and services!
Here are some examples of my Daily Marriage Boost:
Daily Marriage Boost #1: Find something to appreciate about your mate and be sure to tell him/her.
Daily Marriage Boost #2: Stand behind your mate and give him/her a 60-second (or longer) neck massage. The released endorphins will help him connect you with feel-good feelings.
Daily Marriage Boost #3: Listen to Ingrid Michaelson's "The Way I Am"
Daily Marriage Boost #4: Remember that you don't always have to agree so avoid the trauma of trying to change each other's mind!
Daily Marriage Boost #5: The same person you fell in love with is still there underneath the daily burdens. Coax him/her out to play.
Daily Marriage Boost #6: Maintain your own interests. It makes you a more interesting person.
Daily Marriage Boost #7: Sleep naked tonight. Skin on skin. Cold? Turn up the heater or snuggle closer.
Daily Marriage Boost #8: Offer a prayer for him today. Remember that you are one of his greatest blessings. Are you?
Daily Marriage Boost #9: Don't try to win the argument. Win his heart instead.
Daily Marriage Boost #10: Love his quirks. Let him know he is good as is by not trying to change or criticize him.
Daily Marriage Boost #11: Let him have his way because it makes him happy and you love to see him happy. Are you spoiling him? Yes!
Daily Marriage Boost #12: Behold the divine power of sex. An orgasm is healing, bonding, rejuvenating. Restorative.
Daily Marriage Boost #13: A silent man is not necessarily a content man. Are resentments festering? Ask what you can do to make him happier.
Daily Marriage Boost #14: Do something today that will lighten his/her physical or emotional load.
Daily Marriage Boost #15: Be positive about your finances. Count your blessings. Security is a state of mind, not a balance in your account.
Daily Marriage Boost #16: Do him/her a favor and commit to improving one of your negative traits that affects your marriage. http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art38776.asp
Daily Marriage Boost #17: Being well-hydrated leads to well-being. Pour a glass of pure, clean water for both of you.
Daily Marriage Boost #18: Lie on your back in the grass. Gaze into the sky and see what the clouds form. Remember your childhood dreams.
Daily Marriage Boost #19: Do something wonderful for the other "loves" in his life. Pets, children, parents, car, hobby, etc.
Daily Marriage Boost #20: The antidote for starting to turn into an old fart? TICKLE FIGHT!
Daily Marriage Boost #21: Learn something new today. Share this info with him.
Daily Marriage Boost #22: Get a blanket and snuggle together. Learn the art of snuggling!
Daily Marriage Boost #23: Kiss as if it is the last kiss you'll ever share. You never know...
Daily Marriage Boost #24: Play. Bring out your inner child to play with his/her inner child.
Daily Marriage Boost #25: Change your paradigm. Think of one annoying trait of his that you can turn around and see as quirky. It makes him who he is.
Daily Marriage Boost #26: Focus on your own personal fulfillment. Don't rely on him to make you happy.
Too often we rely on others around us to provide happiness. Happiness is an inside job. When you are living a fulfilling life everything else tends to fall into place.
Daily Marriage Boost #27: No money? Good thing kisses are free. Make a list of other free simple joys and enjoy them.
Today's Marriage Boost #28: Food is an offering of the mind-body-spirit.Feed him something good as a token of you.Imbue it with love first.
Daily Marriage Boost #29: Love is not assaulting him with endless talking.
Daily Marriage Boost #30: Telling her to calm down doesn't help her calm down.
Daily Marriage Boost #31: When was the last time you told her she was beautiful? Just say, "Hello, beautiful!" Gorgeous, cutie, angel face all work, too.:)
Daily Marriage Boost #32: Plan a private happy hour. Both of your fav drinks, fave music, fav noshes. He'll look forward to it every week.
Daily Marriage Boost #33: Reach for him first tonight. Husbands report they *love* when their wives initiate sex.
Daily Marriage Boost #34: Vow to be his best friend this weekend instead of his spouse. Forget the chores and do something fun! http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art32760.asp
Daily Marriage Boost #35: Try a new food together. Travel without a passport. Be adventurous with your palate.
Daily Marriage Boost #36: Appreciate the Earth on this Earth Day.Beautify and fortify your life with nature.Plant a seed. Witness a miracle.
Daily Marriage Boost #37: Scent is primal.Get him a new intoxicating cologne that drives you wild.Get one for you that does the same to him.
Daily Marriage Boost #38: Love is freedom. Does your marriage include free will? Control, coercion, manipulation is not love.
Being married does not mean you have to be under each other's control. Two individuals join together for a shared life but not a limited life.
Liberate your marriage for ultimate happiness.
Daily Marriage Boost #39: Give each other a five-minute foot rub. Wash first or use a warm, soapy towel. Your feet are underappreciated until they don't work!
The feel-good endorphins are fantastic for your marital health when they are stimulated by the person you love!
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