Most people want to be thought of by others, and most people want to be remembered while they are here and after they are no longer here physically. That fact is part of the basis for many of our holiday celebrations. Valentines Day, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Memorial Day, Independence Day, Labor Day, Veterans Day and of course, our individual Birthdays and Anniversaries. Most people want to be thought of and remembered not just on holidays but everyday but itís especially noticeable when a person is overlooked on special holidays. Why do we want others to think of us and remember us? I guess itís just a comforting thought to know that your presence in the world is important to someone. That what you have done and what you do and will do touches other people and their lives and that they will remember you as they move hither and dither and yon through their daily lives. Remember Me is more than a computer term related to your passwords.
Valentines Day, Mothers Day and Fathers Day are days that we think of special people in our lives and we hope they will think of us. Memorial Day is a day that we think of all the heroes who have served our country because all who serve are heroes. Independence Day and Labor Day are more specifically about remembering those who stood up for our rights in days gone by and commemorating them for their hard work of laying the groundwork for ours and future generations.
I always think it is very odd when people comment on the tradition of giving greeting cards as an illogical tradition. Greeting cards, handmade cards, even e-cards are an easy way to say to the recipient, ďhey, Iím thinking about you, and Iím remembering now and will remember in the future that you existed and that your presence in the world mattersĒ.
It follows that many of those same people say holidays arenít special, theyíre just another day. I wonder if they could say that as they looked into the eyes of a fallen member of the military, the Grandma who rocked them all night when as a baby they were sick, or their mother or father who ate pasta instead of steak for weeks to pay for a prom gown or a special baseball or softball mitt for them. Would it be so easy to dismiss their importance in your life if you had to look into their eyes while you flippantly ignore their contributions to not only your life but the lives of others? Even people who feel they are alone in the world have impact on others and the good things they do will impact on the recipients. Never underestimate the value of the kindness of strangers. The soldier who saved your Grandfatherís or your Fatherís life in a military battle is remembered when you place a flag on your ancestors resting place.
Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and any day that marks special moments in time shared are important. They should not be viewed as just another day but as opportunities to honor and remember special people and special times. The cost is small, the time spent is minimal but the value to the recipient just may be priceless.
When you think of the words remember me, donít just think about them as seen on your computer screen as related to remembering your password to access a site, think of them with their traditional meaning.
Traditions and trends and fads recycle themselves just as history has a way of repeating itself. One of those traditions is signing year books, autographs and yes, even greeting cards with these three letters Ė RMA. Those three letters speak volumes for both the person who writes them and the person who reads them. Donít forget to remember me - REMEMBER ME ALWAYS!