I have been getting a lot of email this past week about readers asking what kind of witch they should be. This question, although taken seriously by me, can not possibly be answered in an email. Let's look at religion and what it means to be spiritual. Since I am Wiccan, I will use the term in this piece but anyone can replace their own religion as the basic meaning is the same.
Often, we can not rest until all aspects of our beliefs are boxed and wrapped up nicely under a particular name and set of rules to abide by on the tag. One of the nicest, scariest and most empowering things about unorganized religion is that it is not one size fits all.What makes the believer powerful is the idea that their own sense of spirituality is fitted to them personally instead of fitting into someone's idea of what belief and religion should be. There is no failure since changing and growing is part of learning what sort of Wiccan you are.
This is not to say that everyone runs around willy nilly picking and choosing so they can do whatever they want without an repercussion. That is chaos and although it has its place, the sense of rightness in the world that a well thought out path takes, does not allow chaos to rule.
The idea that one fits one's chosen religion around themselves means to study the history of what seems important. Read through any books to find what other do. Find out the meanings behind the Gods and Goddesses, the stars, the planets, the trees, the herbs and the days etc., that you feel connected with. What scents evoke imagery and memories that repeat themselves again and again every time you smell them? What flowers are you drawn to when traveling down a country road? What day of the week feels like you can conquer the world on? These are all clues to the sort of path that will lead you to find peace and richness in your life.
Finding a path of spirituality that makes you feel fufilled is a lifelong journey. No one religion has the market on being kind and loving. We all feel the need to help others and want to live good lives. One would hope that at the end of our life, we can say that we did something meaningful. This would hopefully be something meaningful to ourselves and not measured against a set of ideals that someone else's rules for living.
The true meaning of religion is not the same for all of us. As human beings, we all have a sense that we need to know why we are here. What is our purpose? No simple answers to these questions. It is ok to consider being alive the purpose and bringing goodness and light to the world the reason for being here. That is not just a Wiccan idea.
When you want to know what kind of Wiccan or witch to be, ask yourself that question as you are the only one with the answer.