Can you be logical with illogical people? Can you make them see things your way? Should you try or should you take a different approach? Sometimes you can make progress if the person is just stubborn but sometimes youíre just fighting a losing battle. What to do is entirely up to you.
In the beginning we were all born. I know sometimes we meet people who seem like they were hatched or dropped onto this planet by aliens; and sometimes you meet people who you realize were born but that they seem to have been born under a rock. Perhaps you may even think that they were born under a rock and created by the bonding of two other rocks. Maybe that is because they are as stubborn and hard as a rock. Still just like the Pet Rocks that were popular some years ago, they can sometimes hold your interest and can sometimes even become endearing to you, but they can also unfortunately hurt you with their insensitivity and stubbornness and lack of logic and understanding. If you drop a rock on your foot it hurts. If you are treated badly by an illogical insensitive person it hurts.
So what do you do about it? Do you avoid them? Maybe you can try that but sometimes thatís not possible due to life's circumstances or relationships that are important to you even with all these difficulties. If it is logical and possible, perhaps you should use avoidance as a tactic. Or perhaps you can try to make them see your logical point of view, over and over again until you are so frustrated that you want to cry? Well, thatís probably not a good idea because you cannot usually make an illogical person think logically for whatever reason. Maybe they have control issues or medication issues or emotional issues that cause them to be illogical so you probably wonít succeed in making them see things in your logical way. Do you try to hurt them first before they hurt you? Well, now we know that hurting other people is never a good solution to any problem and weíve all heard that two wrongs donít make a right.
So if youíve been trying over and over again to make an illogical person become logical, isnít that just about as logical as thinking that a Pet Rock can return your attention; or that if you talk to that Pet Rock enough and ask it not to hurt you that if you drop it on your foot you will not feel any pain? Is your Pet Rock causing you heartache and pain? Perhaps as a logical person you might have to realize that some people are just always going to be illogical for their own reasons no matter how you try to change that fact.
If youíve been trying to no avail to make someone see things from your perspective, perhaps you need to try a different approach by changing your reactions to them. Perhaps you need to do some self-talk and change what you can change in the scenario by looking at reality and what you actually can do because itís something that you can control. So if that sounds like a good idea to you hereís a little positive self talk to help.
ďI cannot make you see my way, or think my way, no matter what I do or say. But the thing that I can always do is to change the way I react to you, and anything that you do or say. That is my choice. That is my way. ď
(Excerpt from the book Ostrich)
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