Say that we want to mold a certain productive habit in a child. By being the model of that habit we influence our kids habits now and in the future.
For example, if we are smokers and tell our kids not to smoke they will probably smoke because they emulate actions more than listen to words. That doesn't mean they aren't ever going to listen to our words, especially when they are old enough to make judgements for themselves.
For example, if you tell the kids not to cross the street in the middle of the block, because a car coming around the corner may not expect to see them at the middle spot, they may decide to ignore others crossing in the middle, and go to the corner crossing. They are exercising good judgement in the face of others using poor judgement.
And with the smoking, later in life they may read about the dangers of smoking and decide not to smoke; most likely if they have not already copied a parent's habit.
Now the important point about attitude is to practice what we preach, so kids will begin from the earliest age to adopt good attitudes in living. Even if they have physical or learning disabilities, kids can adopt a positive attitude.
Attitudes precede thoughts, like this: If we are faced with making a choice for an activity that will not benefit the family, we will make the most helpful decision if we have a good attitude. If we carry a bad attitude and have to make the same choice, we may end up not considering the needs of others around us, who depend on us for care and guidance.
Attitude makes a difference when relating with kids. A positive attitude gives the best chance of productive thoughts coming to mind, that have good resolves. Positive attitudes teach kids that even when the tide is turned against them they can learn to see the light - the right approach by adopting positive attitudes, and their subsequent productive thoughts and actions will follow.
Article by Susan Kramer
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