Feeling anger is beneficial when it motivates us to make necessary changes. But, when anger has the upper hand on our peace of mind, it blocks our ability to think constructively, to reach a resolution. And, whether one is disabled or not, anger gone wild is an emotion of frustration for not getting our way.

To help, teach school age kids to take these steps to resolve issues

- Keep a notebook or journal for resolving issues. I like to keep my notebook by the side of my bed incase I get an idea during the night.
- To begin, make a column of the issues at hand.
- Select one issue at a time. Take a few minutes to do even breathing to relax your body and mind. Then, off the top of your head brain-storm possible solutions. Write any ideas that come to mind.
- Then, looking at your ideas, make a pro and con list of these solutions. Think about which solutions are the most practical for your situation and that would benefit everyone involved and hurt no one.
- Write a timeline for instigating your plan and after laying your notebook aside for the time being, begin taking steps to put it in practice.

Anger can be useful when it alerts us that a change needs to be made

By taking productive steps to resolve the issues at hand, we regain our peace of mind and solve the problem. Daily we juggle our aspects of body-mind-emotion, a challenge that makes full use of our capacity to solve intricate problems from various choices.

Paying close attention to our feelings and thoughts, then choosing to act productively rather than reactively, turns out the kindest and most equitable results. Everyone feels good and no one feels taken advantage of.

Kids learn best when they get to be part of problem solving. It is more useful to teach them how to resolve issues with your help, at first, then to solve issues for them.

Recommended ebook

Conquering Stress & Anger with Meditation & Advice - Ebook
Series of 16 topics with meditations for teens and adults to understand more about anger's grip and reclaim inner peace, and 5 practical topics for kids to get beyond anger. 32 pages.

Article by Susan Kramer