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Hold The Door

When considering this article, I wondered how many women I would offend at the prospect of having a man hold a door for her simply because sheís a woman. For those who feel the need to express your disdain, hold your breath. Thereís nothing wrong with common courtesy. As a matter of fact, thereís nothing wrong with a woman being a woman and a man a man. In this battle of the sexes we seem to have forgotten that there are, indeed sexes. A woman can navigate the corporate world, pump her own gas and gracefully walk through a door which is being held by a man. A man can do laundry, make dinner and hold a door for a woman. He can also hold it for the elderly (male or female), a child and another man. Itís common courtesy, for goodness sake to walk to a door and hold it for those behind you.

And women, you can hold the door too. Thereís nothing that says you canít. Be considerate. Look around and notice the consideration of others too. And for goodness sake, when a man kindly holds a door donít berate him with, ďI can get my own damn door, thank youĒ, because you are making the women who want to be women look bad. You are also causing that considerate person to second-guess if he should hold the door for an elderly person or give up his seat to someone whoís frail and exhausted. Your angst over whoís superior is messing it up for the rest of us.

Common courtesy aside, there are many reasons a man might hold the door for a woman. Perhaps his mother and father raised him to do this for everyone. Maybe he sees a woman with a toddler and a newborn whoís attempting to get a stroller through a narrow door. He might notice an elderly person who canít open a door and carry their bags. If the general population has repeatedly cut him down for wanting to do something nice, will he step forward to help these people in need?

Youíll notice the title of this article is Hold the Door. Although itís not gender specific, itís assumed Iím writing for the males in the world. And I do believe that if men looked around for opportunities to help others, the world in general would respond in kind.

Women, of course, can hold the door too. And I hope they do. We are certainly capable of it. And thereís no rule that says we shouldnít. When you are out in public, however, it is most considerate that if a man wants to hold a door for you, you should politely oblige him and thank him. Itís not like thatís going to snowball into any types of assumptions beyond the door. So when a polite person crosses your path, be polite in return and accept the courtesy.

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