It can be difficult being a single person during the holiday season. Whether single by choice, or by circumstance, facing a new year alone can feel scary- but with the arrival of the New Year comes an opportunity to look at our individual worlds through new eyes.
Take a moment and reflect upon the year that has passed. What kind of year was it? Was it positive with a few moments of doubt? Perhaps it was the other way around? Was it a negative year sprinkled with few positive days? Either way, we get to look at the role we play in the creation of our lives and have the choice to take the necessary steps needed to change what we do not like. This is powerful.
Change is an inevitable part of life and often the resistance we have in accepting something new is because we are clinging to past behavior patterns or holding onto feelings of regret. Regret is pointless - it keeps us emotionally shutdown and focused on the past. Make amends with the past and move on. Feelings of remorse can lead to anxiety and unrealistic expectations about others or ourselves - these emotions create barriers in existing relationships, with family and friends, or may shut out new people. The expectation that we will be single forever will make us look past the right person when they arrive. So, leave these useless emotions behind and focus on the future.
We can take small steps forward and face the New Year with renewed strength and a commitment to self-love. Now is the time for real change. This is a time to make new resolutions and renew the pledge to put ourselves at the top of the list. This does not mean that others are set aside on the contrary when we feel good about ourselves, that sense of self-worth creates a joy that spreads around. Feeling worthy breeds confidence, and confidence ignites happiness. It is soon to be a New Year, so go out, and meet new people. Plan a future of breaking routines and start new ones. The end of the year is always a great time of renewal. No matter what the resolutions will be for the coming year, take time for self-healing, self-love, and, self-motivation for a better life. Make this the number-one priority for 2011.
Have a happy, healthy, and prosperous New Year!