When children are difficult to deal with many adults simply withdraw.
Following the wisdom that absence makes the heart grow fonder and
the child will come to their senses, if they become lonely enough.
Yet, this is not what happens when there are larger issues at the
root of the avoidance behavior.

When a child has emotional disturbance an adult can return
hundreds of times over the space of weeks, if not months,
and the behavior to avoid persists. No caring
adult can allow a child to simply cease. Growth
through learning are as necessary as Maslow.

What the child is achieving through avoidance is
the denial of all senses* outside themselves.
Then as the folk wisdom says the only way
to them is through them into their senses.

Like a baby this child has to be approached
as if they have never encountered sights,
sounds, feeling, touch, or taste before.
Starting at the beginning makes food the
most undeniable entry for a dialogue.
Food is the first sense.

Feeding a child to obesity is not healthy
and ill-advised. However if you begin to
think that the only thing a child will
take into their confidence has to have
first been digested by themselves. Digestion
being the baby representation for
unconditional love.

Then making the move from one sense
to the next opens the world back up
for them. Until the child is ready to begin talking
about their senses & others. The exchange of
meaning building a culture.