Sometimes children who are otherwise charming, alert and attentive develop behaviors that seem unexplainable. They may have little quirks about certain foods, sounds, clothing, grooming, or even the weather.
My daughter had an unusual aversion to fried chicken; my son felt miserable in the wind when he was small. To say that either of them was merely uncomfortable is quite and understatement, but that is the only word I had to describe what they communicated to me through their particular reactions and behaviors.
I remember my mom carefully cutting out the tags from my clothes as a child, and how good it felt when I was no longer made uncomfortable by them. Like my daughter and son, sensitivity to my particular discomfort diminished relatively quickly during childhood.
I also remember laughing when my mother asked if I wanted her to cut a tag out of a party dress when I was in high school - and then wishing she had done so when it became uncomfortable later that evening. Her thoughtfulness gave me permission to be a kinder mother to my children. Sometimes we get bad advice and forget to listen to our own best instincts, and may not be as considerate of our children as they need us to be.
When a consulting pediatric neurologist presented information on sensory integration dysfunction to our local parent group, he briefly touched on the topic of sensory defensiveness. He explained that although most children go through periods of sensory defensiveness due to neurological immaturity in normal development, some of our little sweethearts who have developmental disabilities or other diagnoses can have long term problems due to the condition.
Physical therapists and occupational therapists who have sensory integration training can be helpful in getting children and their families through difficult times due to sensory defensiveness and the behavior problems that result from it. Therapeutic horseback riding, simple park swings or therapy hammocks, and what is sometimes called vestibular stimulation, can be soothing for certain children.
Just as each child may have a different sort sensory defensiveness, or a different experiences or sensations that cause them discomfort, there is no 'one size fits all' response that soothes everyone. Some activities a therapist might suggest that comforts one child might result in a new aversion in the next.
One of the best resources for families and professionals to learn about sensory issues that distress young children and children with disabilities can be found in the Winter 2005 Disability Solutions newsletter. If a child who is dear to you has difficulties that you find hard to understand, you may recognize him or her in that issue.
Our children deserve our kindness and all our best instincts to help them grow up to be who they are meant to be. It is important to find role models, mentors and friends who inform and support us along the way.
Browse at your local bookstore, public library or online retailer for books about Sensory Processing Disorder, like The Everything Parent's Guide To Sensory Integration Disorder
Autism Spectrum Disorder And Sensory Integration - A Closer Look
Older Children, Teens and Adults Benefit from Sensory Integration Therapy PDF
Disability Solutions Newsletter - Joan Medlen, editor
Positive Behavior Support
Washington Post Online Chat Archives Friday, Aug. 18, 2006
Understanding Your Child's Learning Style by Dr. Brock Eide, M.D., and Dr. Fernette Eide, M.D., Founders of Neurolearning Clinic
Events, Appearances and Presentations by Dr. Brock Eide, M.D., and Dr. Fernette Eide, M.D.