The only way we can continue to learn about ourselves is to work Steps Four and Five. Each time we do, we reveal more about ourselves and get closer to the person we want to be.

We say that the people that mind don't matter but there is more to anonymity than that. Breaking anonymity requires thought and common sense.

We celebrate our mothers one day a year. I would like to dedicate the entire month to them and to focus on the relationships we share or have shared with them. Men, this is for you, too. A son-mother relationship may be different but moms are still moms.

No matter how many times we study a step we find something meaningful. Or sometimes we are reminded of how we felt and worked the step for the first time.

Recovery gives us the freedom to make choices in our behaviors. How we choose to live the principles of the 12 Steps will determine the peace, happiness and serenity we want in our lives.

There are things we can do to be of service that are totally enjoyable. We all have talents that go beyond what we might believe we have to help others. Enjoy sobriety through service.

There is a time for everything. Sobriety and recovery are serious in nature but we don't have to live in intensity. Enjoy life and remember Rule #62.

Step Four moves us into action. We finally begin to discover who we are and the many "whys" of our behavior. This is one of the few steps that is really all about YOU!

An addiction of any type can change our lives and the lives of others in many ways. Being in recovery can be bittersweet. We see the chaos and devastation of addiction but we can also see the importance in connecting with others is recovery.

We both need and want to help and to be of service. Every now and then we should examine our motives and our methods. It is never about us; or is it?