Mother’s day can be very hard for divorced Mothers everywhere. Most divorced mothers do not have daddy present in their lives to the point where the father is helping the children with Mother’s Day so if she has young children she is very often forgotten completely.

If you are a friend of a single mother today, please make sure you call her and tell her what a wonderful mother she is. If you find nothing planned for today, invite her and her children to a park, for a walk, anything to help make this a special day for her. Next year, make a special point in helping her children remember this day. If you know the father, call him up and tell him that one of his jobs as a father of small children is to train them up on how to treat their mother, and Mother’s Day is one of those teaching occasions.

If you are a parent of a divorced mother today, make an extra effort to acknowledge her value as a mother today while she is showing her appreciation to you. She probably feels very alone today, very sad and out of sorts, and not wonderful at all about her mothering. If this is the first Mother’s Day that she is divorced it is probably even more heart wrenching. Just make sure to recognize her too. With families living so far from each other today, you may not live close enough to do anything physically with her but a phone call will go far.

If you are a divorced father, reading this it is not too late to do something about Mother’s day for your ex. Even a phone call will go far in making her feel special. Calling her and telling her that she is a great mother to your children will bring untold amounts of good will into your relationship. Next year, during visitation take your children shopping for Mothers day and instruct them on how to treat their mother on her special day. Even if you did nothing this year, I can assure you, more times than not she will make sure her children do not forget your special day, Father’s Day.

If you are a Mother reading this, and your children have seemed to forget Mother’s Day, remember this they are children and to them every day is Mother’s Day. Plan a special day with your children. Give them a few dollars to take to the mall or even the dollar store and tell them you will not look, to pick out something for you. There is nothing wrong with doing this. I don’t know who said it, but I read once that you teach people how to treat you; I think it was Dr. Phil, and while he and I don’t see eye to eye on many issues, this is one of those where we jell quite well.

It is your job to teach your children how to treat you. Do not over look this day as a good teaching opportunity. You cannot always rely on others to do it for you. Many men, in spite of the things we do for them on their special day, will say “But she’s not my mother” when instructed to take their children shopping for their ex. I have even seen Step Father’s with this attitude. While it is one I intend to change in people, it will not happen over night, so it is up to you. Teach your children how to treat you. When you do that, you are also teaching them how to allow others to treat them when they are wives and mothers.

If you are a mother without her children today, do something special for yourself. Treat yourself to a movie, a good book, or a nice walk and know that you are a very special mother. You can also talk to other mothers in your situation on our forums. Most of all have a Happy Mother’s Day!