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BONUS MARRIAGE ARTICLE OF THE WEEK:
MEN: 4 Ways To Save Your Marriage 4 Ways To Save Your Marriage
by Michael Webb
Is your marriage in trouble? No matter how bad,
there’s always hope and ways to turn your situation
around. Here are five common ways to help create a
better, more loving and harmonious relationship
with your wife.
1. HANDLE ARGUMENTS DIFFERENTLY.
Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but
it's how you handle them that's most important. At
Junior High School, I said 'no' to drugs. At my
wedding altar, I said 'no' to fighting. Nancy
Reagan's "Just Say No" anti-drug campaign was a
huge success. Kids made a verbal commitment and a
mental stance to avoid drugs before they were even
of the age to be tempted.
When they were introduced
to drugs, they knew they could "just say no" and
not feel alone. Fighting is NOT harmless. It’s
addictive and, if continued, is likely to cause
irreparable damage. Certainly there are times when
emotions get wrinkled, and the natural inclination
is to blow your top.
I sometimes have to bite my
tongue so I don't say something I would regret
later (since when is self-control a bad thing?)
Having a naturally calm personality has admittedly
made it easier for me to think before I speak than
it is for some people. But that shouldn't stop
anyone from trying.
2. TURN GOSSIP AND BASHING INTO PRAISE.
No one's perfect. When the guys get together and
the conversation turns to complaining about “what
their wives do,” or wife bashing in general, refuse
to participate. It shows that you respect and value
your wife. Instead, when a "gripe session" gets
going, make it a point to start sharing some of her
Usually, this alone will steer the
conversation into a positive direction and help
your friends to also praise their wives -- which in
turn helps them to respect and appreciate them more
too. Knowing that my wife refuses to belittle me in
front of friends makes me love and respect her even
3. CHANGE THE ROUTINE OF YOUR LIFE.
After a few months or years, most couples get into
a comfortable pattern where they always do the same
things. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual
routine and same behaviors. You can rekindle some
of that magic and keep your marriage exciting by
simply paying attention to these three important
1. Go on creative dates - agree to go out and do
something you've never done before once every week,
fortnight or month. It doesn't really matter what
you do, but it's important to commit and do this
constantly. Want some ideas? Go to a winery,
museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have a
picnic in a park.
2. Spice things up under the sheets - try a new
position, technique or location. Wear some nice
lingerie or introduce some new toys into the
3. Change up the norm - buy her a gift just to say
“I love you," give her a nice massage, set up a
scavenger hunt that shows how much you care about
her with a gift at the end.
4. FACE YOUR MONEY ISSUES AND DEBTS.
One of the biggest problems facing couples today is
the huge amount of debt they bring into their
marriage. Not only are there more divorces, couples
are calling it quits much earlier in their marriage
than ever before. Here are some ideas to get your
debt and money issues under control.
1. Sit down and prioritize all aspects of your
family budget together. Only when you analyze your
spending habits will you fully realize where you
are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk
about your goals and dreams.
2. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a
sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.
3. If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a
fancier car, ask yourself why.
4. Take a quick inventory of all the items you own
but could really live without. Consider how much
you paid for them. What if you didn't buy those
items and had all that money in savings instead?
Would it make a difference in how you view your
job, your family and your future?
So there you have it. 4 ways to turn your marriage
down a positive road. No one said mending a
marriage would be easy. It takes time, effort and
persistence. Good luck.
About the Author:
Michael Webb's latest book, "Getting Her Back… For
Good" provides you with a solid plan to get your
ex-wife back, help heal your marriage and even
prevent a divorce. For all the details, visit
Getting Her Back For Good
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