Why do we get so angry at the other side, unable to accept a different opinion? In order to be right does someone else have to be wrong? The real power struggle in the mommy wars is within the self.

One of the most basic steps on the pathway to happiness is forgiveness. Holding on to grudges, entrenched in being absolutely right, we doom ourselves to living in the past while poisoning our present. What is really bothering you: That someone hurt you or that you allowed yourself to be hurt?

I just returned from a whirlwind TV news station tour out West, five cities in five days. When you travel for business or pleasure and your schedule is hectic, don’t let yourself get depleted. Here’s what worked for me:

Has the word "but" been creeping into your statements? I am happy, but. I gained weight, but those holiday meals. I would exercise, but I’m tired.

The urge to gossip can be irresistible. According to recent statistics both men and women gossip about the same subjects and just as often! Considering that 2/3 of our conversations consist of gossip, there are some redeeming qualities.

It feels good to be bad once in awhile because we liberate ourselves from restrictions. Regrets fall into a different category. Since everyone experiences some sort of regret when reflecting on the past, it only becomes a problem if:

You have built your life around the kids and because you have done your job right, the last little bird is about to fly away. How will you fill up your life?

Love relationships are almost impossible to unravel. Let’s not bother to chew over the same old things and overanalyze them. When you said, “I do,” you really meant, “I do for me; then I do for you!”

Even at the very end, when we think we have nothing to contribute, nothing new to give birth to, we can make the biggest changes and do the most good.

To manage your daily stress and feel reasonably happier you need to broaden your associations and liberate your mind from the blind respect you have given teachers, parents and professionals – people pleasing.