Give credit where it’s due, be generous with compliments and be sincere in your praise and your marriage will thrive. Do you sometimes find yourself wishing that your partner would compliment you the way your boss does after a job well done?
Many couples discover that as they settle into their marriage, the compliments or kind praises are not as frequent as when they were dating.
Making it a practice to give credit where it’s due and being sincere about your praises go a long way towards reinforcing wellness in a marriage.
If you see that your wife works conscientiously on the treadmill to keep off the weight, did you ever think that she’s probably doing this to please you? Saying something like, “You’re so disciplined in your efforts to achieve your goals, I’m proud of you” will add to her self-confidence and reinforce her attitude that she’s doing something that’s healthy and that you appreciate.
If your husband is good at crunching numbers, praise him for his skills at rapid calculation. Telling him “You’re amazing with numbers” will give him a sense of pride, and he will feel important to you.
No doubt many experts and marriage counselors will differ in opinion on how to save a marriage, but they all agree on the following fundamental elements of a solid marriage – only the words and the way they are conveyed are different:
* trust and communication
* respect for each others ideas and expectations
* fidelity
* physical and intellectual stimulation
* maintaining their own personalities, but supporting each other’s dreams
