Tinder. Grinder. Hinge. OkCupid. With these dating apps taking over todayís relationship world in 2017, is there room in this era for the old-fashioned dating style?
Dating apps are meant to match individuals with potential daters who have similar interests and with specific character traits they desire in a dating partner. Old-fashioned dating in this case refers to the old-fashioned way of meeting people, which is through face-face networking, clubs, parties, bars or lounges, or going on random blind dates set up by acquaintances or family members.
Dating apps allegedly make dating decisions easy by either swiping left or right to a potentialís picture. While this dating method certainly saves people time going to singlesí events or bars to meet fellow singles, it supposedly makes it difficult to choose just one person among so many potential options.
Let's take a closer look at these apps and their functionality:
- The pool of dating partners is wider than that of old-fashioned dating, and it gives you the freedom to be picky and filter characteristics or interests you donít desire in a dating partner.
- You also have the ability to filter specific regions and locations
- Whereas the fear of rejection is prevalent with old-fashioned 'blind' dating when communicating and meeting face-to-face for the first time, with online dating there is no immediate pressure to meet your matches right away or even talk on the phone. You can gauge their responses and interaction through chat first before making your decision.
- Itís hard to evaluate physical chemistry based on text or calls alone. Two matched potentials can chat all they want, but if they meet IRL (in real life) and thereís no chemistry, then all that time spent on online conversations is wasted. With old-fashioned dating however, you can tell right off if thereís chemistry or not within the first meet, and you can gauge their interaction, body language and responses to you all in that one IRL interaction.
- Sometimes it can be difficult to gauge the other party's intentions (unless they're brutally honest with you over text or phone), whether theyíre ready for real relationships or just on there for a casual fling.
- Some people fill up their profiles with lies or exaggerated truths (especially about their physique) simply to get matches, thus misleading innocent potentials who donít find out the truth until much later when they eventually meet.
There isn't any immediate threat to these dating apps, however individuals are always advised to be careful and to be safe when meeting matches IRL for the first time. The online world is filled with those with wrong intentions, whether subtle or obvious, and even though one is equally as likely to meet people that these via the old-fashioned dating way, online dating has provided a quicker, less obvious means to hide their intentions. If using any of these apps, itís always suggested that you:
1. Meet matches in an open space -- avoid giving them your home address, and avoid meeting them at their place of residence
2. Make the first date brief, inexpensive, and in an open space
3. Only agree on a second date if you felt chemistry, liked what you saw, and engaged in great conversation
4. Donít schedule a second date for the following day; give at least a week or two before meeting again
Whichever dating route you choose to engage or continue on, always stay safe and let a friend or loved one know where exactly you are when going on your first dates.