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Wearing Black to a Wedding

Black is no longer reserved just for funerals. Gone are the days when black signified being in mourning. Truth be told, black looks good on just about anybody. Itís slimming. It goes with everything. And everyone needs at least one LBD (that would be Little Black Dress) in their closet anyway.

It used to be that if you chose to wear black attire to a wedding the attendee was making a negative statement against the marriage. It was a not-so-subtle way of letting everyone around you know that you did not agree with either the bride or groomís decision. As tacky as that is, one hopes you would just not attend the wedding. If you donít agree with the marriage then donít go. Itís a wonder you were even invited in the first place. A wedding is an opportunity to celebrate. If you canít enjoy the day, donít attend the wedding. And wearing black these days will just mix you in with the rest of the savvy, well-dressed set anyway.

Now, if there was a recent death in your family and the bridal party knows you are actually mourning someone, you may want to consider wearing a perkier color. Your decision to wear funeral attire to a wedding will not put anyone in a celebratory mood. If you are truly missing a loved one, attending a wedding and detracting from the happy moment might not be the best and most considerate decision. If you are miserable and donít believe that celebrating with those dear and near are going to lift your spirits then itís completely acceptable to stay home. You will be happier and the bride and groom will be able to concentrate on their special day. Sure you will be missed. But you will be appreciated for your gesture.

Many bridesmaids these days wear black. And tuxes are more likely to be black than white right? Itís the bride we donít want to compete with when it comes to color. If you are torn between wearing black or wearing white please, please, please wear black. White is the brideís color and you NEVER upstage or in any way detracts from her dayÖEVER!!!

Of course, like any dress you are going to wear, you need to consider the time of day and the season. You wouldnít wear a cocktail dress Ė black or any other color Ė to a morning wedding. You also would not wear a black velvet number in July Ė even if it is strapless and short. Wear the lighter cotton or wool gabardine, black dress with a jacket or shawl to a wedding taking place in the morning or early afternoon. If a wedding begins after 4:00, however, silkier, sassier, more cocktail attire will do in any color Ė including black.

Formerly considered inappropriate to wear on someoneís happiest day, black is now acceptable. So grab that LBD and celebrate. Mazel tov!!

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