Why do some people end up Broken Hearted and what becomes of them? Are you one of them and if so why and what do you do about it? Itís such an overwhelmingly sad question. Are you wearing a sign or something that says, here I am, come break my heart? Well, unfortunately many women send out invisible signs that set them up for the heart breakers to target them. Perhaps an even worse part of the cycle is that unless changes occur in the signals they send out, it is likely that they will continue to repeat the same cycle over and over with someone who looks different but acts the same.
So you may be asking how is it that you set yourself up as a target to have your heart broken over and over again and again. You may also be annoyed by the inference that it is your fault that you are a target? Well, itís not your fault. Itís unfortunately human nature. Women are by nature driven to nest and to nurture. All youíre really doing is acting naturally. This one fact alone is probably enough to allow a manipulative player to target and control you and to win your affection, and steal your heart and consequently, to break your heart. But nature evolves and perhaps women have to evolve in response.
Confused? Thatís understandable. A man who wants a woman to fall head over heels in love with him merely needs to throw out some of those all important buzz words that so many women have always known and loved - in a relationship, plan a future, looking at rings, love, and marriage. These words are big bell ringers to the nurturing, nest making female who want nothing more than the fairytale with the happily ever after. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting the fairytale. Again, it just acting naturally as nature dictated for females. So should you put up a defensive shield against every man who begins speaking in buzz words? Well maybe, you should just be realistic. If youíve known him a day or two or even a week or two and the buzz words are freely flowing, maybe you should be suspicious. If youíve been together awhile and heís not given you reason to doubt his sincerity, maybe heís not a heart breaker.
Every now and then the guy is sincere and everything he says is real. Certainly not all men are heart breakers. If that was the case, no one would ever get married and stay married. This is a point that should not be overlooked when youíre looking for love and the happily ever after while trying to avoid being one of the broken hearted. Perhaps, itís important for the single female seeking a single committed male to apply some good old fashioned judgment and common sense and to also trust in their own female intuition. If it seems too fast, or too serious, or too over the top, it probably isÖ! Pay attention to your instinct, intuition and your insight not just to the buzz words you want so desperately to hear and believe.
So now you may be asking how do you avoid being one of the broken hearted? Maybe just acknowledging the fact that not every man who throws out the buzz words is sincere and really interested in actually following through on planning a life together will be enough to make you less of a target and a stronger, more balanced person who protects their own heart from being broken.
What becomes of the broken hearted? That depends on whether they learn from their own broken heart and really look with a clear and open mind at their own actions and the signals they send out. Hopefully, what becomes of the broken hearted is that they mend their hearts and move forward in a wiser way and nurture and nest in a safe place that allows them to thrive. A strong healthy heart is not as easily broken and can recognize and stand up to an attack of an insincere bombardment of meaningless love bombs of buzz words and can then also recognize true sincerity in a man when itís shown.
Unfortunately when it comes to matters of the heart and avoiding having yours broken perhaps itís not a bad thing to be a little skeptical. After all trust is a valuable treasure that should be earned, not just given out freely to every Tom, Dick and Harry who comes along with a convincing line of buzz words.
So still the beating of your heartÖ Control the anxiety in your soul, life is after all sometimes a game, sometimes when we roll the dice we lose, and sometimes we win the roll. Still your heartÖ so you can hear and recognize the buzz words of an insincere troll and pass the dice instead of playing and paying his toll. What becomes of the broken hearted? I hope you never have to knowÖ
Until next time, have a warm heart but be COOL! Be happy, be well, and be the best you that you can be!
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