I grew up right as chat rooms and online communications started to become more common. As I was getting older, I found that more and more people my age were ďdatingĒ online. When younger people did this, what I often found was that the relationship wasnít real. It was someone to chat with and a way to pretend that they had something real.
But now it is 2014 and Internet dating is very real. People meet online almost every day. Dating websites are common and relatively accepted. And yet you still are met with incredulity if you tell someone that you have a significant other in another state or countryÖthat you date virtually and havenít yet met.
With social media, texting, email, and video messaging, virtual dating is becoming even more of a reality. But how do you know when your relationship is actually a relationship and not simply the idea of one? Here are some good indicators of if you should begin or continue to date someone virtually.
You know that a virtual relationship canít be maintained forever. Step one in dating virtually is to know that you want to meet them in person! If you donít ever want to meet them, then why are you getting to know them? Maybe you just want a pen pal. Check out some great pen pal sites if youíre just looking for someone to connect to.
You and/or your partner are flexible on living location. If you arenít willing to move and your partner isnít willing to move, then we all know how this will end: broken hearts across state, country, or continent lines.
You encourage each other to get out and do things. If you are dating your virtual partner so that you donít have to interact with real people, that is a recipe for disaster. When you are able to get together in person, you wonít be able to interact well as you will be used to interacting through technology. Keep your people skills, and your life, fresh. If it is real, you should be encouraging each other to maintain your life and not be locked inside with a video screen.
You are willing to spend a bit of money on this person. Not right away of course, but if youíre long distance then a visit should happen at some point. If careers or school are keeping you from living with your loved one until a defined future point, then you should be willing to shell out some money to go visit them at least once. And vice versa.
You feel the same way about them as you have with people in person. If youíve never dated someone in person, then you should consider meeting your virtual date sooner rather than later.
The feelings are what really matter and if seeing a message from them and hearing their voice sends chills down your spine and butterflies swirling in your stomach, if your heart skips a beat when you see their faceÖthen stick with it and work towards meeting someone that you really fell for through todayís virtually created world.