Do you strive for perfection and then get upset when you donít reach it? We complicate our lives when we feel pressurized to achieve perfection. Even though we know that no one is perfect, we believe we can achieve it and just add stress to our own lives by striving.
Do you feel stressed whenÖ
Ö someone unexpected arrives at your house and you havenít cleaned that day?
Ö you go out and are not dressed to perfection and you meet someone?
Ö your child has a temper tantrum in public?
Ö something you planned doesnít go as it should?
Ö your routine is interrupted by real life?
What are your good and bad characteristics?
Women everywhere want to be thinner, more attractive, better moms, have a career, have a clean, tidy house. They plan family get-togethers and keep in touch with distant relatives. Along with that they are expected to raise their children well, and have a great marriage. When you write it down you can see that if you succeed in one area, you wonít be perfect in them all.
If making meals from scratch is your favorite thing to do every day, then realize you wonít have time to do other things to perfection. Ask yourself what are your lifeís priorities, pursue those and let others be sub-perfect. Itís OK to do that, tell yourself itís OK not to have everything perfect.
If you really donít want to clean your own home and can afford for someone else to do it, then pay a housekeeper. It will give you more free time.
When you do something, be it make a meal or clean a floor, donít apologize that it isnít as good as you wanted. Most people wonít notice, but are happy that you have made the effort.
Remember the 80/20 rule
The first 80% of what you do is the easy part of the job. Striving to do the last 20% is the part where you are going for perfection. Often you can improve a messy room by 80% and all the inhabitants are happy, they donít notice the last 20% of work that you didn't do.
Be satisfied with the things that you do. You donít have time in your day to everything to perfection, so be happy with your efforts. Feel good about what you do achieve instead of being upset that you didnít finish something to perfection.
Take time for yourself
Donít spend all your time doing chores, remember to take time for yourself.
Perfection is an illusion, you must let go of the ideal. We canít all be Martha Stewarts in every area of our lives. Many people donít feel comfortable around others who appear perfect, but prefer to be with ďrealĒ people. Real people know that perfection cannot be reached and there is peace around knowing that.
Donít be perfect. Be human.
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