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A Book Review - The Cheat Sheet

When you suspect that someone you trust and love cheated on you - itís heart wrenching. Raw emotions make it tough to verify or dispel suspicions. The Cheat Sheet, A Clue-by-Clue Guide To Finding Out If Heís Unfaithful, is an excellent how-to guide to prevent or uncover cheating. Itís every womanís secret weapon for info, analysis and tools to catch a cheater. In the tech-savvy world we now live in itís much easier to cheat, but itís also much easier to catch a cheater too. As Ariana Huffington of The Huffington Post put it texting is the new lipstick on the collar. It can be the proof that tells the tale, of the indiscretions of a cheater.

When I was first asked to review The Cheat Sheet by Rea Frey and Stephany Alexander, I wasnít quite sure what to expect but I assumed it would at the very least be interesting. Quite honestly, I was blown away by this book and the wealth of invaluable helpful information that it includes to specifically help women caught in the horror of a cheaterís game. As advertised, it teaches readers how to navigate the complexities of infidelity. (Information About the Authors follows this article)

Below are different categories of information that allow readers to easily sift through the items that they are most interested in reading for their specific situations:

The book's introduction states that a relationship that includes infidelity isnít a relationship at all and that a cheater is not living in reality; they are living in a hurtful fantasy. Obviously if a relationship is not grounded in reality it would be very hard to sustain it successfully. An extensive list of signs that your partner is cheating is included in the intro. Cheating crosses gender, professions, age and ethnicity. If you have a hunch and your intuition tells you that your significant other is cheating on you the book suggests that confirming your suspicions may not be that difficult and gives you resources to proceed.

Other highlights of this book include how cheaters get away with cheating and how many cheaters rely on excuses like it just happened yet they go to elaborate lengths to make it just happen. To lie and deceive, there has to be forethought and planning that goes into each and every action. It doesn't just happen My opinion is that cheaters irrationally believe for some self-serving reason that they are somehow entitled to have their cake and eat it too and that the rules of society, propriety and fidelity just don't apply to them.

All cheaters, no matter how sneaky, give off clues. If you suspect you are being cheated on this book has very useful information to help you analyze and investigate to find out if your suspicions are correct. If you have, in fact, been the victim of a heartless cheater this book offers a wealth of information to help you heal and to move on. Cover to cover it delivers on the clue by clue guide approach promised in the sub-title.

If youíre a woman thinking about becoming a cheater yourself and having an affair with a married man perhaps these words of Ann Landers quoted in the book will make you think twice about it Ė If you marry a man who cheats (or cheated) on his wife, youíll be married to a man who cheats on his wife. This applies to men who cheat on their girlfriends and fiancťs as well. Just think about that quote. What would make you think they wouldnít eventually cheat on you too?

No one deserves to have their hearts broken by a cheater and it is unfortunate that a book like this needed to be written; but the fact that this book has been written to help compel women to move forward on a personal journey to recognize the signs of infidelity and to handle it when needed, is a significant step toward shining a light on the fact that relationship cheating is a huge problem now. With regard to suspected cheaters, women have to learn to trust and listen to their intuition, and to not ignore the signs, and to protect their right to be treated with respect as a person. This book is a significant step forward in helping women achieve these goals. Cheating is disrespectful and insulting behavior and relationships canít thrive without respect in them. If a person wants to be with someone other than their significant other they have a moral and ethical responsibility and obligation to say so and to live with the consequences of their decision. They should not sneak around like a rat in a diner after dark.

Having heard from many of you regarding the devastating results of being cheated on, I highly recommend this book to all female readers to help you protect yourself from the treachery of cheaters. Moving on after being cheated on isnít easy but it can and must be accomplished. Some of the suggestions listed are:

For those of you who have been cheated on Iíve written
Iím Over It.It's my gift to you delivered with
the hope it will help you to move on to the wonderful
fulfilling life you deserve...


I was cheated on - I felt tainted.
Afterwards I felt somewhat dizzy,
As if Iíd been woozy - and Iíd fainted.
I wished weíd never met - had never become acquainted.
It was Hell on Earth but I lived through it,
Hey, you know what - I really should be sainted.
I lived through it, wasnít sure I could do.
But I did and now Iím alive and well and untainted,
Iím stepping through a new door into a brand new world,
Full of opportunities - and the door is brightly painted.
With hope not despair, wisdom and fresh air,
And a suit of armor - bulletproof and titanium plated.
Iím beginning to feel alive and well again,
Iíve moved on Ė I'M OVER IT - Iím no longer sad and deflated
Actually I have to admit to myself,
With that cheater gone and out of my life,
Ė Iím moving on and I'M ABSOLUTELY ELATED!

- Kate Woods

Kudos to the Authors; the Publisher, Adams Media, Avon MA; and Serendipity Literary Agency for taking on this difficult but timely subject matter. Until next time, have a warm heart but be COOL! Be happy, be well, and be the best you that you can be!

Best Regards,

Kate Woods
I Aspire To Inspire
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About the authors of The Cheat Sheet:
  • Stephany Alexander, an author, infidelity expert, and founder of
    WomanSavers.com. She has been featured by E! Entertainment, FOX, the CBS Early Show, USA Today, the New York times, Esquire, Glamour, and Oprah.com.
  • Rea Frey, a certified personal trainer and nutritionist, uses her expertise to promote wellness in all areas of peopleís lives.
  • Book Forward by Tommy Habeeb Ė Actor/Writer/Producer and Host of the TV Show Cheaters

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