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How to Deal with a Stage 5 Clinger

Recently, Iíve had an encounter with some people who are just too clingy. Iím never quite sure if they actually have stalker potential, or if they are simply socially awkward. Either way, when dealing with someone who just wonít leave you alone it can be difficult. Especially when they are flirting with you! Here is how to detect and drop a stage 5 clinger before you end up in a relationship with one!

How to recognize the signs. Often, a stage 5 clinger can be detected early on, but weíre nice people and we all like to give people the benefit of the doubt. But an easy way to recognize a stage 5 clinger is how quickly the communicate with you following a group event. Have you ever met someone out or at a party, had at most one 5 minute conversation, and then come home to a Facebook friend request and a couple of messages? That is an early sign of a stage 5 clinger. I recently met someone at a party who I didnít talk to at all. We shook hands at the beginning of the night and said goodbye at the end. When I came home, I received message on Facebook. That seemed fine, so I didnít worry about it. But thenÖI continued to receive message after message after message. Any time I didnít respond I still got another. After four messages with no response, it stopped. Until 11 at night when I saw another. And the next day! It escalates very quickly. Donít take these things as just a sign of eagerness because if you respond to all of them, the person will increase their clinginess.

What to do. The first thing you should do with someone like this is immediately stop responding. If you very much want to be their friend, you canít respond to everything. In this day and age, constant communication seems to be almost expected and clingy people appear to believe that they have a monopoly on your time. So show them that they donít. If you discover that a friend has become like this then you should try talking to them about it. Good friends can become clingy as well when they get insecure or upset due to any number of things in their life. Just be aware of the type of person you are dealing with (natural or created) and take appropriate actions quickly.

And good luck!

**If the person shows any signs of being violet, volatile, or begins following you around, please report this to a police station or an appropriate authority to deal with stalking. This article is not about stalking and only applies to people who are abusing today's technological communications.

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