Attitude supersedes thought so we can see how important it is to develop a loving attitude if we wish to have harmonious relationships. And not just with a partner or our family, but with all creation.
A loving attitude is like a doorway that opens us to an expanded feeling and point of view in all situations.
When faced with a situation where choices for the good need to be made, it is a loving attitude that zeros in on the best option or resolution. When all concerned have the attitude to resolve for the best, the right answers float into our consciousness as an “aha” moment.
Meditation to develop a loving attitude
Go to your quiet meditation place and have your journal handy to write out any insights.
Sit on a blanket or cushion with your legs bent in, or sit upright in a chair with the soles of your feet firmly planted on the floor for balance.
Fold your hands in your lap or place them face up or face down on your thighs.
Begin even and regular breathing like this for example: breathe in one count; breathe out one count; breathe in one count and continue this pattern throughout the meditation without actually saying the numbers. Do not hold your breath at any time.
Even, regular breathing is the tie that binds the mind and body in calmness and steadiness. When upset a few minutes of this breathing calm both mind and body, so it is a very useful technique to practice.
Once your breathing is even turn your thoughts to the phrase “loving attitude.” Imagine you are on a sailing ship going through life that is totally controlled by thought. While you are holding a loving attitude the vessel keeps to an even keel and you are invigorated by the ride. But, if you let yourself see the negative sides of an issue repeatedly the keel leans to the side instead of staying upright, and splash, you’re in the water and must struggle to get back onboard.
Reflect that with life being like keeping the ship of your life on an even keel through a loving attitude producing positive thoughts, you’ll be able to stay more comfortably dry.
Now, while your eyes are still closed practice feeling loving toward a dear one and extend that thought to the world. Hold onto this feeling when you finish your meditation.
Take a deep breath in and slowly release it. Open your eyes and stretch out. Write any new insights in your meditation journal for future reflection.
For the rest of the day practice holding loving attitudes and gradually let this practice seep into your relationships.
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