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Do Opposites Attract When One Partner is Fat?

Regarding core values like religion, work ethic, money, raising children or not, birds of a feather should flock together according to most studies. But what about the disparity in putting on the pounds? Is there a “more of you to love or should you be wearing a looser-fitting black outfit mindset?”

According to an article in the Wall Street Journal, “Put a Stop to ‘Do I Look Fat?’” by Elizabeth Bernstein if a woman outweighs her male counterpart, there will most likely be tension in the relationship (in some cultures this is not the case). However, if the male is the heavier of the two, then the quality of the relationship usually remains stable. The moral of this story is that women are more sensitive about their weight. Consider the plight of an older woman married to a younger man? At least if a woman is fatter, she can reduce the pounds, unlike the older woman who cannot reduce the disparity of the chronological years unless she undergoes the surgical knife.

Tricia Burke a lead researcher on the topic which was published in the December issue of the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships explains that she doesn't know whether the disparity in weight, particularly a woman’s weight, caused couples to argue more, or whether conflict caused her to eat more and become overweight.

Anger and resentment are powerful triggers for eating foods high in sugar and fat as one is stressed by the tension. And in the short term feeding a hungry heart works. In the long term it is a form of self-sabotage regarding self-image and sensuality.

Generally, a woman who weighs significantly more than her husband is more likely to:
Imagine the stress of a normal-weight man as he tiptoes around his overweight woman trying to give her compliments which don’t sound hollow, resisting the powerful urge to preach about diet and exercise and serve as her fashion consultant, and most of all not scolding her for eating dessert or being too lazy to exercise! What can he do to help balance the scales?
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