Meditation exists in our centered balanced place. Therefore, when we are feeling out of sync, a stint of meditation can bring us back into harmony.
If you are out in public and start feeling out of control, you can inconspicuously start a pattern of even and rhythmic breathing without anyone noticing what you are doing. For example, breathe in one count, breathe out one count, and repeat this sequence till you feel calm and relaxed and able to think clearly.
While you are practicing regulated breathing - this short instant meditation - pay attention to the pattern. This takes your mind off the conflict or upset you are going through.
Breath is a bridge connecting body, mind, emotions. By stabilizing the swinging bridge of distress through even breathing, you can think clearly again and feel relaxed.
Trying to Control Another's Behavior
Manipulating others is an upsetting process all around. We first cause stress in our own mind by thinking how to get others to act as we wish. This leads to tension in our interpersonal relationships.
How to get beyond controlling and manipulation is by substituting feelings of respect for how others are living, according to their own instincts and ambitions.
When we wish someone to come around to our way of thinking, we need to stand back and see if that is to please our own desires.
The antidote is to nurture others' plans for their lives in a way that promotes their goals, without thinking what we can get out of their situation.
When we have children it is a temptation to continue trying to mold their actions as they become adults. And it can be just the reverse, that when we are adults we may want to try to get our parents to act according to our plans.
To make progress in relieving the personal stress of control and manipulation, practice periods of meditation. Meditation is the medication that can harmonize our lives, so we can make progress in our own goals without trying to get others to act as we wish.
Meditation helps us remember that we are each on planet earth with personal and planetary missions. And we each get to choose how to walk our path.
Make time for deeper meditations, to come to know that peace and satisfaction come from within, rather than from gaining possessions, or manipulating others to do our bidding.
In summary, controlling behavior is a two way street, where we each need to choose our path without pulling others from theirs. And, that we can remedy controlling behavior by meditating to find our inner treasure of personal peace, joy, and fulfillment.
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