This is lesson 21 of 48 in the series "Conquering Codependency - Loving Without Leaning" looking at aspects of codependency from a spiritual point of view.
We call relationships difficult when we get uncomfortable feelings in our body with certain people or thinking about them. Their actions, or what they say screech across the grooves of our mind.
Meditation for Peace and Harmony
Sit straight with eyes closed, hands folded in lap or place palms face down or face up on thighs. Begin even regular breathing such as breathe in 2 counts; breathe out 2 counts, and continue this pattern without actually saying the counts.
Now, let go of any negative thoughts about those who are hard to get along with. Instead, see them in a warm cocoon floating through life in a gentle and harmonious manner. Now, feel yourself in a cocoon safe and warm and peaceful.
Take some minutes to sit quietly just letting your thoughts come and go without giving them any emotional energy.
Take a deep breath, stretch, and go on with your day in a peaceful way.
Difficult Relationship Prayer
May I remember that I am whole in myself
Fully deserving of fair treatment.
May I not feed the fire of another’s
We can protect ourselves from the uncomfortable effects of difficult relationships by
- Avoiding contact with them;
- Observing what they do or say while maintaining neutral feelings and thoughts about them;
- Doing the opposite of being the mental observer by being surrendered and open to their form of expression if it is just different and not negative, thus allowing new grooves of a different reality to be recorded in our mind and stored for reference. During this new recording we do not have to give up our own position or way of thinking, rather, we are expanding our experience base.
In a relationship no one deserves to be put down or walked over.
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Article by Susan Helene Kramer; photo credit of heron in The Netherlands by Stan Schaap