This is lesson 27 in the series "Conquering Codependency - Loving Without Leaning" looking at aspects of codependency from a spiritual point of view.
Sometimes being wrapped up with another's issue or problem sweeps us right along in the tide with them.
Can we really be helpful if we get emotionally involved or depressed by someone’s situation, losing our balance, peace and happiness?
Meditation for Reflection
Sit in a quiet place indoors or outside, perhaps in your back garden or a park. Fold your hands in your lap, close your eyes and take up some even regular breathing such as breathe in 2 counts; breathe out 2 counts; breathe in 2 counts and continue but without actually saying the numbers. After a minute dwell on the following thoughts while keeping up the rhythm of the even breathing -
By standing back emotionally, while listening carefully with an attitude of compassion, we are 'there' for the person, and we stay in our own center of balance - best able to clearly see and perhaps work with them on issues.
While listening to another describe their problem we can remain quiet, or if asked for advice think of an example from life that might aid the person. Hearing recounts of first hand experience has an influence, because the listener is shown a model that it can be accomplished.
While quietly reflecting, really think about the wisdom of giving examples, but not becoming entangled and an addition to the situation.
Take a deep breath in and out to end your meditation, and write out new insights in your journal for later review and contemplation.
Standing Back Prayer
“May I remember
By standing back emotionally
While listening carefully and compassionately
And maintain my peace of mind.”
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Conquering Codependency, Stress and Anger - Loving Without Leaning
Written from a spiritual point of view, 82 lessons on codependency, stress, and anger with sections for kids, teens, and adults. Each codependency topic includes a prayer or meditation or both for reflection and inspiration. Topics include revenge, instant anger release technique, substance abuse issues, stress release. 21,000 words. Paperback or ebook options.
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