Evolution is a natural building and tearing down process that makes space for refined and redesigned structures. A relationship fails to be a relationship when one or both can no longer grow within the current set of circumstances, conditions and interactions.
This is lesson 46 in the series "Conquering Codependency - Loving Without Leaning" looking at aspects of codependency from a spiritual point of view. Each of the 48 lessons includes a prayer or meditation.
Meditation for reflection
Sit quietly and begin breathing evenly and regularly such as 2 counts to breathe in; 2 counts to breathe out; 2 counts to breathe in, and continue in this rhythm without actually say the numbers out loud.
Reflect on these thoughts: As we relate one-on-one we weave our threads of separateness into a tapestry which seems solid and permanent. Then, when a relationship disintegrates we feel pain as the cloth of our bonding is torn to shreds. It hurts to rip apart from the relationships we create.
Our lives are like honeycombs with spaces to fill our time as we choose. Most spaces are filled with activities to maintain our body and lifestyle. We also have spaces available for maintaining a relationship.
To once again establish our peace and harmony we can begin reweaving the torn threads into a more refined tapestry. By upgrading our self-centered into caring feelings, we relax and regain our sense of balance and harmony.
It is okay to begin rebuilding with a different set of circumstances and another person. We again take up our threads and begin reweaving a new and more refined pattern into our relationship cloth.
Eventually we create an intimate relationship out of mutual unconditional caring love steeped in harmony, withstanding external pressure and changes.
The pain of disintegration is a fiery refining process. Consciously allowing, surrendering, and letting go of an unworkable relationship forms a bridge to a better life for both.
Releasing the Past Prayer
“May I have courage
To create the reality I choose
Based on my insights
From past experiences.”
Finish your meditation by taking a deep breath in and slowly releasing it. Stretch out and go on with your day resolved to learn from your experiences.
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Article and photo of dunes by North Sea, The Netherlands by Susan Kramer