To have a friend, first be a friend. This motto will take you happily through life with plenty of people you will call friends.
Friendship is a circle of sharing, but it has to start with someone. And when it starts with you, you will be the one with plenty of friends. On the other hand, if you stay away from people or don't go out of your way to develop friendships you won't have many.
And what is the point of making and nurturing friends? It is a happy way to live!
A guided meditation to develop friendliness
Sit up straight in your favorite meditation spot and if you like, keep a journal and pen at your side to jot down new ideas after your meditation.
Begin with a minute of even and natural breathing like this - breathe in 1 count and breathe out 1 count and repeat this even pattern while sitting still and thinking. You don't need to say the numbers, just keep up the even rhythm of breathing.
Close your eyes and fold your hands in your lap. If you are sitting on a cushion on the floor, fold in your legs and place your folded hands in your lap. If you are sitting in a chair, place the soles of your feet on the floor and place your hands in your lap.
Now, imagine you are walking across the playground at school and it is full of kids enjoying recess. Some kids are gathered in groups talking, and others are playing dodge ball.
You notice what they all have in common is they are communicating with others and they look and sound happy.
Over on the bench you see a new kid by himself who is longingly watching others play together. Now, see yourself go over to the new boy and introduce yourself. Ask him some things about himself like his name and where he used to live. That is a way to start up a conversation.
And while you are being friendly, notice that you feel good. You notice, too, that you have more energy suddenly. That is what being friendly does - gives us a nice boost of good energy.
Now finish your meditation by opening your eyes, stretching out and resolving that the next time you are on the playground you will search out someone who is alone and brighten up their day and yours, too, by beginning a conversation.
Article by Susan Kramer
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