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Fending Off Family Feuds During the Festivities

This holiday season needs an emergency infusion of joy and spontaneity to counteract:Ideally, your social network consisting of family and friends can generate humor and joy helping to redirect your attention from what you dont have to what you do have. However, in reality they can be rude, insensitive and as much fun as a stomach virus. When you recall past holiday get-togethers with family and friends, you often realize why you see these people only once a year.

People who push your buttons most likely know you quite well. Sometimes it is a role you and they are locked into based on birth order or seniority. You might be forty years old, but you are still a little sister. However, sometimes its not them but you and your personal stressors making you highly sensitive to criticism and even worse, making you more critical of them! Could you be goading them into behaving badly?

Then there is your spouse who is your mirror. When you are most angry with yourself, feeling stressed, depleted, unattractive, insignificant and under-accomplished, you can lash out and blame it all on your partner, the nearest and dearest recipient. After all, in your universe you are always right and everyone else is always wrong! It is time to lift the veil and perceive the pattern.

Dont fret because I will help you deal with these difficult relationships. The first principle of stress management is preparation, the way you prepare a meal. You get good ingredients, follow a recipe and play with it a bit to personalize it, and then dinner is served.

So, here are the ingredients: Set aside time for the self-esteem to rise and put aside the half-cup of resentment. Adorn the self-esteem when it is ready and serve with a triumphant smile. Drink a cup of cheer and put down that cup of resentment.

Heres how to do it differently this holiday season.Now go enjoy that great mix of body, mind and spirit. I drink to your health!
For more information on managing your stress and reclaiming your life read my book, Addicted to Stress: A Woman's 7 Step Program to Reclaim Joy and Spontaneity in Life. To listen to archived radio shows with guest experts visit Turn On Your Inner Light Radio Show

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