If you are looking to be in a long term committed relationship, dating is a great opportunity for you to find out if the person is a good match for you. When you invest in anything there is usually a criteria for the purchase, so when you are looking for a mate there should also be a criteria.
All too often people fall into relationships with the ‘wrong’ people just because they would rather not be on their own, and they belief that anyone is better than being single. They may notice some ‘flaws’ or warning signs in the beginning, and instead of running in the opposite direction they will assure themselves that it will be fine and that they can ‘work on that’. If you have done that, how did it work out for you?
Entering a relationship with someone means that you are going to allow them to be who they are and not try to ‘fix’ or change them in any way. Dating is an ideal way to get to know someone and to find out if they are someone you can grow with and create a partnership with.
Many woman feel obligated to be with someone just because they have shown an interest in them. In many cases they will persevere with the relationship and make changes to themselves to fit in with their ‘partner’. Even although the partner is not a good fit for them. This is not the basis of a relationship, and there is no way to create an equal partnership from there.
No-one has to settle for the first person that comes along and if they don’t match with you and your values then you have another opportunity to meet with someone else. Dating can be exciting.
When you think about what is on the line, a life with someone you love and respect, then is it not crucial to spend time making sure you’re with the right one for you? Taking the time to explore and see how you feel with them can take a while so don’t over commit yourself to someone until you really feel that it is right.
Ask questions that show you what his values are
Try to find out his likes and dislikes
Don’t just dismiss him if he doesn’t tick one of your boxes (unless it’s a really big one)
Don’t dismiss him on his looks
Give someone else a chance, someone that you may not have looked at in the past. People can surprise you.
Don’t agree with his views or outlook just so he likes you. Be bold and say what you think.