The newest horrific story of a domestic violence relationship gone badly involves Alofa Time, 50, of Boise, Idaho and his wife Theresa, 47. Charges were brought against Mr. Time after he choked his wife in March. They were scheduled to go to court July 25th on this charge. A judge granted a no-contact order which was supposed to keep Mr. Time from having any contact with his estranged wife. Mrs. Time requested that the no-contact order be lifted. She had to complete a safety planning class at a local crisis center before it was lifted.

On June 16, 2006, Mr. Time was in a car accident where he killed a woman and her 4 year-old daughter. The other daughter, an 8 year-old, was critically wounded in the accident and is recovering in a local hospital. Police are saying in put himself into the path of the victims.

What makes this story so horrific is what was found at the scene of the accident. Mr. Time pleaded with police to kill him after the decapitated head of his wife was found along the roadside during the investigation of the accident. The rest of her remains were found in a car at the couple’s home in Nampa, Idaho. Other items found on the scene were a suicide note and money with unreported wants after his death.

According to reports I read today, the couple married in December but may have sought divorce in January. Police reports say that he held her to the bed and tried to strangle her before police arrived. He was taken into custody but posted bail.

We can learn from this what I have said before. Many times, the abuse does not stop. Too many domestic violence cases end up like this with the death of the abuser or abused. While we will never know why she lifted the order or why she allowed him back into her life, the abuse never stops. If you are being abused, please don’t take the same path Mrs. Time took.