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You intuitively know if a relationship is healthy or unhealthy for you. You know this by the way you feel. If you are happy in a relationship, your mind is thinking of ways you can solve problems and be happier with that person. If you feel unhappy with someone, your subconscious mind is working on ways for you to exit the relationship so that you can save yourself and be happy again.
Relationships are not perfect. All relationships have ups and downs. But in a healthy relationship there are more good feelings than bad ones. In a healthy relationship you feel comfortable to talk about anything. In an unhealthy relationship you find yourself not talking about things with someone because you just donít want to deal with his or her aggravation. In an unhealthy relationship talking and trusting someone with your thoughts and feelings is not possible.
In a healthy relationship, someone encourages you to make peace with others. A mentally healthy person encourages you to make peace with friends and family. Even if the peace is only in your mind and you have to keep your distance from certain people in your life, it will still be peace for you. Anyone that loves you will encourage that.
A person who is mentally unhealthy encourages you to argue and fight with others, and be isolated from your friends and family. A mentally unhealthy or toxic person seeks to isolate and control you so that you only have time for his or her needs. Someone like this is not concerned with your well-being. A healthy relationship partner encourages you to make peace with others for the sake of your health and peace of mind.
In a healthy relationship you donít feel controlled. In a healthy relationship you can breathe and you feel relaxed about the relationship, even if you feel stress about other things in life. This person does not try to control your every move, any money you have, anyplace you go, anyone you talk to and anyone you are friends with. Controlling behavior is not healthy. It is also not always a sign of insecurity. Controlling behavior is abuse. Irresponsible behavior with money and controlling behavior about money, both are signs of mental illness.
In a healthy relationship there is no mental, verbal, emotional or physical abuse. Mentally healthy people do not abuse others. Your intuition knows if you are in an abusive relationship. Your intuition knows if your children are being affected by an abusive relationship. If this is true, your intuition is probably signaling you to let go.
Talk to someone, a friend, a counselor. Talking is healthy and will inspire you to improve things in your life. A healthy relationship partner will encourage you to talk to others if it means you will feel better. Your well-being is a priority to a person who is mentally healthy.
If you are in an unhealthy relationship, the other person will put down and criticize every one you know, in an attempt to stop you from talking, having friendships, realizing whatís going on, and doing what is healthy for you. This is manipulative behavior. Manipulative people are very skilled at head games and trying to brainwash others. They have a tendency to turn things around for their benefit. There are many reasons manipulative people do the things they do. Most of their actions are selfish and caused by mental illness.
But for now we are focusing on you. Breathe and let go. Be a friend to yourself. Do what is right for you. You are strong and you are your own person. You are powerful. You can release yourself from anything that does not feel good for you.
Think of the person you are in a relationship with. How do you feel? Do you feel tense when thinking of this person? Or do you feel a sense of peace? Is the person you are in a relationship with a good person, or just good at acting like one? Does this person have good will toward others, or do you intuitively know that he or she is only out for their own benefit? Keep in mind that the way someone treats others, that is their true nature, and it is the way they will treat you now and in the future.
Life is short. Be with someone that truly loves you. Be with someone that makes you happy. Sometimes in life you will be with another person, and always you will be with you. Be there for yourself, the people you love, and the people that you know love and care about you.
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