I understand firsthand the pain of infertility. My husband and I struggle with these issues every day. I have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) one of the most common causes of infertility. My husband also has a genetic disease and suffers from severe male factor infertility. We have had to make many of the same choices you are facing right now.

Should we have a baby biologically due to his genetic disease (muscular dystrophy) and the 50% chance of passing that along to a baby?

Now that we know a biological child is not a possibility for my husband, how do we proceed? Should we use a donor? Should we adopt?

How can we afford infertility treatments? How can we afford adoption? If we decide to adopt, can we handle an older child who needs us more or are we better off with an infant that may be harder to find?

Would we even be approved with my husband's health issues?

I have found many things that help me, and many things that have helped my coaching clients and those who read my articles and books. Feel free to email through the contact form if you are unable to find the answers you need on this site.

A good place to start is the Infertility Archives.

It is impossible for me to provide all of the information you need here, so you may also want to check out the book reviews. I have reviewed many, many infertility books. You'll find reviews and links to the best infertility books here.

Often what couples facing infertility need most is a listening ear and support from people who have been there. You'll find both at the Infertility Forum. Feel free to post your questions and ask for advice from others who have traveled this path before you. Even if you feel your question is basic or "stupid" ask! Most of the time there are others who want to know the same thing but are too shy to ask. When you ask it can open up a great discussion that everyone can learn from. Check out the Infertility Forum here.

Julie Renee Holland