Are you allowing yourself the pleasure of success? Recognizing sabotage is gigantic step forward toward achieving your goals, hopes and dreams. Here’s a scenario that may help to recognize some common self-sabotaging behaviors.
Self-sabotage are any self-limiting beliefs, obstacles or behaviors that may be keeping your from living up to your full potential and enjoying success. Here’s a self-development tip: Self-sabotage feeds on fear, success thrives on understanding.
Let’s look at this scenario. How many self-sabotaging behaviors can you identify?
Your promotion to the next income level in your business isn’t all you thought it would be. Everyone expects you to be in five places at the same time. No one in your company ever says, “Job well done,” let alone a “please” or “thank you.”
Lately you’ve been thinking that it was much easier having less responsibility. Your friends at work at acting a little “standoffish.” It really is lonely at the top.
Here’s something to think about: Self-sabotaging behaviors can shake your “selves” to the core.
How many self-sabotaging behaviors did you recognize? Are there any you may recognize in yourself?
1. Responsibility can become a frightening experience if success is seen a punishment rather than a reward.
A promotion to the next income level in business is generally viewed as recognition for a job well done. To a self-saboteur, a promotion may be seen as instant stress followed by a bleeding ulcer.
Success becomes a punishment for being too good. The little sabotaging voice inside your head is saying, “Well that’s another fine mess you’ve gotten us into, show off. Now what do we do? Wait until they find out you really don’t know what you’re doing.”
2. Making success unpleasant is a convenient excuse for not succeeding. If your values and beliefs were influenced by people who were uncomfortable with success or struggled through life trying to make ends meet, then being promoted to a leadership position can be emotional poison to the belief system.
The unconscious mind works to stay within its comfort zone by reminding you of the negative “success truths.” One way to justify success stress, is to blame others for the misery. Success should be seen as a pleasurable experience, not something to avoid or fear.
Fear of success is learned so it can be unlearned. Working to enhance self-esteem and feeling comfortable with you ability to succeed are important first steps toward enjoying the rewards for being good at what you do.
3. Things are going too well, so let’s find something wrong. Sabotaging behaviors are based on feeling guilty about feeling good.
Self-sabotage begins with annoyance. The way someone chews food, the sunlight is too bright in your office or the noise from the ticking clock sounds like nails on a chalkboard. Sabotage is about keeping yourself emotionally off balance.
If there isn’t anything going wrong at the moment, a self-saboteur will dig deep to find something. Becoming annoyed is another effective way of making success unpleasant.
Self-sabotaging means unconsciously finding ways to undermine your own achievements and find the flaws. How many self-sabotaging behaviors did you recognize? Conquering what isn’t working in life begins with recognition!
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