Guest Author - Jeanette Stingley
There are many ways and plans to help you heal after going through abuse. This is one technique that has helped me tremendously! I found it hard to tell people how I felt and what my abuser did to me. Writing these things down made me feel as if I was releasing something internally as the pen moved across the page. Journaling can be a way of reconnecting with yourself, your emotions, and your thoughts.
How and when do you write? This differs from person to person. Sometimes I journal when a thought is bugging me and I want to get it out. Other times I will find a prompt that inspires words inside of me. There are many books on the market that help you come up with ideas. I will list some at the end of this article. There are also websites and mailing lists that provide prompts for you to write about.
I use hard bond books to keep my journaling in. Some people use spiral notebooks or composition books. Keep in mind blogging and journaling are 2 different things. When journaling, it is intended to be written by hand on paper. Blogging is kept somewhere online for you to share or not share. We will look at blogging in another article. I keep a few “special” pens for journaling. They are fancy pens that make me feel special while I write.
Basically, there is no right or wrong way to journal. There are no required skills or special talents required to write a journal. You just do whatever you feel like doing and don’t be shy about what you write about. No one has to ever read your words unless you allow them to. Imagine the feeling of control you will have with your special book. You will be in control of your words and feelings.
Journaling can often coincide with seeing a counselor or therapist. This can offer you therapist another perspective on what you are feeling and dealing with inside.
What do you do after you fill a journal up? I keep mine and look back over them from time to time. I have a friend who will burn hers in an almost ritualistic manner. Many people go on to publish their journals. Kudos to you if you find the courage to do this!
- Write a letter to the person who abused you. What would you say to him/her? What did you learn from this person? You never have to send this, so write freely.
- Who are you? What or who made you who you are?
- Where do you see yourself in a year? Five years? Ten years?
- Now that you are away from your abuser, what goals do you have for yourself and, if you have any, your children?
- Write about a song that has inspired you
The last blank journal is the one I am currently using to write in. I like it because it has 204 pages!!!