Guest Author - Barbara Merkord

It is human instinct to create change. This change can come in many quises, but the result is the same: human nature dictates that one should be discontent in their lives and thus, needs to create change. It sounds far-fetched, but upon closer inspection you will note the "itch" for change is always upon us. This can create havoc and ruin relationships.

Of course, it isn't always easy to love the one you are with. Each one of us carry baggage and little flaws that other people can get tired of. Our ways of relating and communicating are most apt to cause these issues.

The most important thing to remember when you are feeling the call to change, is the fact that this is a passing moment. Remember back to when you first met, remember back to the last time you laughed together.

Things can become monotonous and mundane, losing any sparkle of excitement and the unexpected, but just as easily is the ability to fall in love all over again and to appreciate the solid relationship that you have, the one that is built on love, time and trust. These things mean more in the long run than passion and excitment.

Many of us "go with our guts" when it comes to matters of emotions and relationships, but often-times that is precisely the wrong thing to do. Use your logic, know that longevity far outweigh a new change. Trust your mind to know more than your emotions. If you need a change, get a haircut, try a new color, a new outfit, go away for the weekend, or just go out and have a good time. Make some new friends, but always remember your love for your partner. These people may seem exciting and fun, a great change from the person that may be waiting at home for you, but do realize that their newness too, will wear off.

Appreciate your partner, and learn from them. Perhaps what seems old and boring may in fact be wise and mature. You and your partner do not have to be exactly the same, in fact, the more things you have that are different, the more likely you will be to find something fresh and new to fall in love with all over again.