Guest Author - Barbara Merkord

Same-sex marriage, as we all know, is a hot topic in this country ( as well as others ). What can you do if you want to marry your partner, but are not legally able to?
There are several options: Hawaii allows same-sex marriages, as does Massachusetts. Vermont offers Civil Unions. One can also get married in a foreign country, though the legalities of whether it will be treated as legal in the state where you live is highly up for debate. Some states offer Domestic partnerships, which entitle you and your partner to benefits otherwise unallowable by law, such as access to hospital rooms, division of property, etc.

Some couples are holding out until it becomes legal in their home state, while others choose to marry regardless of what the law says is legal or not. Another option that people choose is to have the ceremony, in all its glory and grandeur, without that little piece of paper stating that it is legal.

How do you know which option to take? That is highly dependant on your political and personal beliefs, not to mention monetary restrictions and patience. In the end the choice you make is yours, and will be perfect, and at the correct moment. Until then, take some time to plan out your wedding and make it exactly how you want it, so that when the time comes you are not only prepared but more than ready to tie the knot, jump the broom, and take the plunge.

Once you have your detailed list of everything you want, start creating another list of where you can get the needed items at prices you can afford. Decide on big or small, location, who will officiate the ceremony, who you will invite, what foods to have, where to have the reception, lodging, and most importantly ( to some! )what you and your partner will wear. It's never to early to buy the outfits and keep them as a reminder of the commitment that you will one day make to each other, and how beautiful it is going to be.

One important tip: Don't let the laws get you down. There are ways to get married, and sometimes its just the act and the witnessing of friends and family that mean the most.