I am re-printing (below the asterisks) an article that has been very popular with my readers (hence the 'Zero Tolerance' topic) - as I am at this time busy preparing a write-up on a fascinating new book that I have just read, namely "Goodbye Natalie, Goodbye Splendour". This book is a compelling 'must-read', written by Marti Rulli, as told to her by the Skipper, Dennis Davern, who was onboard Splendour the night Natalie Wood died under mysterious circumstances. Only three people apparently know what happened that fateful night in November, 1981 - and one of them is dead! That leaves Wagner and Davern, the Captain.

Ironically, I just finished reading 'Pieces of My Heart' during the summer which was written by R.J. Wagner in 2008; I had stumbled upon 'Pieces' at the library - completely unaware that this latest, thought-provoking book, "GNGS" about Davern's account of the circumstances leading up to what transpired that fateful Thanksgiving weekend was about to hit the stands! His account of Natalie's final hours that weekend may be the catalyst that initiates a groundswell of public support in having this decades-old case reopened...we can only hope...

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With regard to the above-captioned topic - I know only too well about the subject of this (re-printed & tweaked) article first-hand. Whether in a personal arena or work place, I have had my share of bad (abusive) behavior from men in more than one area of my life. For those of you who are not familiar with the word 'misogynist', this word was coined for men who hate or dislike women intensely and have deep-seated anger towards them.

It sends shivers down my spine when I think of some of the horrendous situations I've been put in during my lifetime - both professionally and personally. The abuse of power by some men that I've come in contact with during the course of work has been incredulous to me. Usually these men are so emotionally immature that one wonders how they ever went as far as they did in the business world.

I'm not sure people realize how rampant this type of atmosphere exists in our society. It truly boggles the mind that these abusive types are able to hide their true personna - or worse, that their egomaniacal, psychopathic (or sociopathic) intimidating personality is ignored by the "Powers that be" simply because these men are intelligent and have had the best in education. It's all about whether they could deliver the goods, financially speaking. Nothing else seems (or seemed) to matter.

And, when you have a man, or men, moving up the ladder running the proverbial ship with this kind of abusive nature - flagrantly exhibiting their abuse of power, it does not bode well for the company they work for - sooner or later their dysfunctional behavior will rear its ugly head and possibly make damaging headlines. At some point they will meet their waterloo - they will slip up and expose themself(ves) for the type of person they really are - as their arrogant, cavalier behavior will ultimately show them up - then there will be scrambling for damage control - maybe already too late to avoid some type of damage to a company's reputation That's what happens when you ignore the blaring red flags that pop up either in their workplace or homelife. I wonder at what point this type of CEO will finally be shown the door - how much collateral damage does it take to a company's reputation before that happens? It is usually rather typical in a male-chauvinistic type company that 'coverups' abound for these toxic tyrants. At what point is their bad behavior no longer tolerated? What has to happen for that to occur - I wonder.

If you add another element to their dysfunctional behavior such as - alcohol - you have a recipe for disaster - at least at some point down the road. It cannot be hidden - nor overlooked - forever. But, I have seen this type of scenario and I have seen the 'Powers-that-be' look the other way while people (good, hard-working employees) got abused mentally and emotionally on the job and not a thing was done about it. They bowed to the egomaniacal tyrant who stomped around and tried to intimidate.

Employees know that when push comes to shove, they will be left holding the losing card as companies always stand behind Management. It's scary to know that some things never change such as companies backing up their Top Brass - no matter if they are in the wrong!

Somehow these tyrant(s) are able to fly under the radar with their machinations and manipulations while on the job. Their abusive behavior should not be tolerated - ever - under any circumstances. It's unethical, immoral, anti-social and demoralizing behavior - not to mention completely UNprofessional! It impacts the people around them as it is psychologically damaging and can leave people scarred for life.

This 'pummeling' of a person's psyche leads to life-long afflictions such as 'Post Traumatic Stress Disorder'. When are these 'good ole boys' network(s) going to wake up and smell the coffee? Is tolerating the bad boy's (or boys') dysfunctional behavior really worth it? Think about that - while your CEO languishes in a jail cell for road rage, some type of reckless behavior or maybe even driving while intoxicated - racking up those D.W.I.'s - just hope that his latest faux pas doesn't somehow become public knowledge. The term 'loose cannon' certainly comes to mind. They wreak havoc not only on their own lives but on the lives of those that they 'choose' to wield their power over. Why? Because they can.

A few months back there was another case in point - News stations were blaring the news that the singer known as Rihanna was allegedly hurt physically by her boyfriend, rap singer Chris Brown. He was released on bail saying that her 'true colors' will out. That is the crux of the matter right there. These immature men take no responsibility for their actions. There is no excuse. He cannot make it 'okay' because he offers an excuse. There must be ZERO tolerance for any man who puts their hands on a woman.

Unfortunately, mental and emotional abuse, which are just as insidious as physical abuse but harder to prove - go on day after day in relationships and in work arenas. I've witnessed it - I've been victimized by it. I've met pond scum. I've worked with these egomaniacal tyrants. These men don't get rehabilitated. They don't think they have a problem. They are condescending towards women and need to have total control and domination. The funny thing is - very often they are henpecked by their wives. Then, they go to work and take it out on the people who work for them. Call it what it is - abuse of power! Immaturity - that is key with these men. They never developed emotionally past maybe 10, 12 or 13 years old. That is why they act out and are very childish in the way they deal with issues. If they have a problem with alcohol, then that wratchets the tension and abuse levels up a few more notches! Can you imagine that there are men such as this running major companies? They are Out of Control!

When will companies and their "Powers-that-be" wake up and realize that the egomaniacal, abusive, tyrant-type behavior on the part of their CEO's should not be tolerated and is counter-productive for a company causing low morale, low productivity and a demoralizing, toxic atmosphere. These types of men are sabatoging their own companies as well as their own careers.

Who among you out there reading this - if you have a situation such as this, and YOU have the Power to do something about it - is going to take a stand against this type of injustice? When you allow this type of dysfunctional behavior to go on you are aiding and abetting the abuser. Refuse to keep looking the other way. Do something constructive about it. If you refuse to tolerate it - it cannot keep happening! It's time to wake up and smell the rancid coffee...

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