Guest Author - danielle barone
I received an email from an old friend last week. She is depressed and unhappy about a relationship she is involved in. There are so many things I would like to tell her. I decided to write her a letter, in the hope of helping her understand some important things, and making her feel better. If you are struggling with letting go of something or someone in your life, I hope that this letter will help you to feel better too.
I feel sad when I think of you staying in an unhealthy relationship for reasons like a fear of being alone, being scared of change, or an inability to let go. All of these are understandable and very human reasons, but not ones that lead to feeling good about your life.
I wish I could help you see the foolishness of holding onto someone or something that is no longer healthy for you. I wish I could help you understand there is no need to be afraid of change, or being on your own, or letting go.
Good things come from these experiences. But the truth is you really will only see this after you have the courage to let go, take that leap of faith, and walk through whatever it is that you fear.
Yes letting go of a relationship sometimes does feel like jumping out of a plane, but the strange part is, at some point you thank yourself for doing it. Itís not so bad on the other side; in fact things do feel very good again. You just have to have some faith in yourself. If you are not used to having faith and trusting yourself then this is a great opportunity to learn how to do this.
Every person walking the earth has loved someone, and at some point in time will need to let go. Itís a part of being human like just like breathing is.
There is so much good to letting go, most of which you will learn along the way. But the truth is the most important part comes after you let go, because thatís the time when you become strong, and you begin to understand that life is about how you choose to see it.
It is helpful to accept that there will be times in your life when you will be on your own because of different circumstances. You will not always be in a romantic relationship with someone, and this is normal. It is healthy to accept this if you are in a relationship or not. It is healthy to accept yourself and others.
Being on your own can be a wonderful experience. The key to feeling good about anything in life is learning to have a positive perspective. There are many positives to being on your own. It is a time when you will learn more about yourself, when you will take care of yourself and become stronger.
Being on your own is a time when you will learn that you can handle anything in your life. It is a time when you will realize what makes you happy. And it is a time when you will learn that you can give yourself the things that make you happy.
When you accept that your life will hold times of togetherness and of being on your own, you will feel healthy and independent on the inside. I am here for you if you need me.